Tue 2 Jun, 2015 07:20 pm
So I am mixed Afro-Brazilian. To be more specific I am 60% African American, 21% Portuguese and 18% Native American. I look very "ambiguous". My skin is very light, and my eyes are dark blue/grey. The father is African American and Cherokee(his great grandmother) but only identifies as Black. His eyes are dark brown. He is very proud man, and believes strongly in a child being the race of their father...
In my life I've met Black people who would consider me Black despite my skin tone and blue eyes and some who have called me White(it happens, been called a White girl) and White people who tell me I am not White and have said to me that I am mixed or Black. Race is a touchy subject for me because of other experiences in general and his simplified view on it is kinda new to me...
My daughters skin tone is just a little darker than my own and she has her daddies eyes. So I guess she could "pass"... I personally only identify as Afro Brazilian because that is what I am... "race" is not treated the same in my home country as it is here. It is more about how you identify. I in no way am against my baby being viewed as Black... With my racial heritage and my boyfriends, chances are she is more Black than anything else, so maybe there is no problem here? Well, please and thank you.
Personally, I'd identify her race as human
I'm not sure about the legality of it, but she may be stuck with whatever was entered on her birth certificate. If not, I'd say let her decide.
i am a product of mixed marriage, my mother was a woman and my father was a man
I often identify myself as joe
though sometimes as bond, james bond
My parents never touched each other in a sexual way.
insert skeptical smilie here
I dont like the term race, it makes it sound like someone is going to come first . Historically, people have been the tribe of the father, but the religion of the mother .
What would you prefer? You are an adult, you decide what you feel is right for you and your daughter.
I understand there is a cultural and tradition there, but you are an adult and can decide what is right and what you feel comfortable with.
What do you mean by "identify with"?
Hopefully you will raise your daughter to appreciate all of the people and cultures who have contributed to who she is.
"race" is not treated the same in my home country as it is here.
Can I take a wild guess that "here" is the USA? Anyhow, surely your daughter is 50% yours, and 50% her father's? I mean in terms of who has the "right" to decide this. He (you say) believes "strongly" that a child should be considered the same "race" as its father. He does not have any more "right" than you do to decide this. If you don't agree with him, you have the right to say so. To me, if you needed to decide a racial classification, that child is "mixed race". But that makes me think of South Africa in the bad old days. In any case, why not just bring her up to be a human being?