Letting go of an expectation is GOOD.
JUST leave it alone.
When a person says they are focused on something believe that you are not part of that something AND WALK AWAY.
That does not make you bad.
That does not make her bad.
It just IS.
I suggest the movie Kama Sutra as a good tool.
In it you will see the pairing of passion and knowing when to let go.
It is an ethereal movie.
Look for parts of it on Youtube. AND ENJOY.
THAT ASIDE PLEASE MAKE LOVE TO YOURSELF. Make deep love to yourself.
MAKE SURE THAT YOU ARE THE SEXIEST MAN IN YOUR OWN PERSONAL ARENA OF SEXY GREATS. Be your own Goddess/God of Love figure and LIVE your own inner love life of passion.
The woman will follow...in time.
Just as you worship you too should be HELD ON HIGH.