@hawkeye10,
Hawk and oral.
Have you ever had a relative who always had every problem you ever had, and their experience was always worse than yours? I do.
So, after years of listening to this bullshit from your self-absorbed relative, your beloved wife dies of cancer. You are inconsolable. You've suffered with her through it, she's suffered horribly, and finally died.
You tell the relative and you KNOW what's going to happen. You stand there in front of Aunt Agnes and you say, "My beloved has died."
Aunt Agnes begins to tell you how she's suffered with bursitis for decades.
And you finally scream at the top of your lungs, "I don't give a **** about you or your ******* bursitis. This is about what happened to ME and my beloved, and **** you."
And, if you did, I wouldn't blame you. I'd have your back.
People pass each other on the same street in every town in this country, but some of them are actually living on different planets. If you can't or won't cop to that, further conversation will be a waste for us.