Is my soon-to-leave boss interested or being friendly?

Right because I'm obviously the problem here 😂

I know he's committed before but got his heart broken. Also, it's better to stay single than marry early. To me that's smart thinking. I don't want to get married before age 30. But I do get the vibe that hes a player. My coworker tried convincing me that he's anything BUT a player. I do have very strong doubts though. I guess we will find out when he in fact asks me out because I know I'll confront him then.

Rose, we are begging you. This is not a nice man. If he gets you alone you don't know if he will take no for an answer. On the off-chance you don't understand, let me be very clear, yes, I think everybody here thinks he's trying to get in your pants.

When I was a young woman, my measuring stick was 'can I explain this to my parents', is this something he would be proud of?

Thank you. I understand and agree with you.

Taking out the gender. "People" commit and get their hearts broken, so it sounds as if either she cheated or he cheated and she left or he didn't commit enough and she left you have only heard "his" side and trust me the usual emotional way of getting someone to want you is to "cry" poor me.

Again, shrugs, what a "not" man.

You're theory is "poor him" and better to not marry early wait, for someone like you, smart.

You are 18 you want to wait, 3o is late for a woman especially if she wants children but later in life is a good thing... If you get that vibe he's a player then TRUST your instincts..

You're co-worker how close are you? Sounds to me as if that person wants your heart broken, why else would he/she state that? He/she doesn't know him as much as you don't you don't know why he never married but now you are thinking and "oh it's because he was heartbroken by a woman". You have doubts. You are 18. He is 30, you should have doubts.

You can't confront him he will lie. You will go through with this just as the woman who meets a married man and won't listen goes through with this.

I am only going to hope that in doing so (dinner) that you are safe, that you can leave after and that you do.

Oh he never talked to me about it. I just went through his Facebook to try and figure more about him. Hes never mentioned females to me. He doesn't ever want to have kids, apparently it takes away his "luxury" to go out and do what he wants. Now that I think about this, it totally fits the stuff youre saying...

My coworker is around 22 ye as old. Hes been working here way longer than me with the guy. I've been here for a few months. Hes been here a lot longer. He told me that they talk about women a lot because they are guys. And said that the 30 year old likes romantic relationships. When I told my coworker that I think he's a player, he said "he can be a lot of things but not that". On the other hand, my coworker was very surprised when I mentioned the whole thing. (I didn't get into any details, just hinted that something may be going on). However, this guy is a complete loser. He loves mind games and messing with people. He thinks im gullible and innocent. I think we're friends, but I can never trust him. So it's likely he's also trying to screw me over.

If you don't think I should confront him, then what is it that I should do? If he asks me to go out to a restaurant with him..

As I read this thread, to a person people are advising you to pass him by. Is that not coming across somehow to you?

I'm thinking she may do better to try to find a construction worker.

rosey, that's an inside joke.

Hmmm? 'Ya know, I hadn't made that connection. I wonder if she likes horses?

"You can't confront him he will lie. You will go through with this..." Seemed to me like you were saying I actually go with him. Sorry for the misinterpretation....?

I have no idea what you're talking about? I never wrote that.

Furthermore, are your comprehension skills OK? No one here is advising you to see him. Why do you keep going there?

Lol I'm questing YOUR reading skills if you can't go back and read what you actually wrote. Honestly, someone asking for real help is never looking for sass and rude comments:) I'm done here now

Oh ok it was found soul not you. Oops, somehow you all seem like one person. I wonder why

Oh ok it was found soul not you. Oops, somehow you all seem like one person. I wonder why

I don't think it's her. It's just that something you or someone else said that reminded me of that fiasco. hehe.

Ragman didn't say that.

It was FoundSoul dear.

We would pretty much remember what we wrote.

Probably because we are all adults saying the same thing, because in one way or another, we've been there, done that.

Rosevilla, at this point I think you got the gist of what we think. If you choose to search for minutiae, needles in a haystack, that's your decision. There really isn't anything else that can be said.

Good luck to you, I mean that.

No advice on the issue, but when you start talking to people you both work with, you should know that what you say now can come back to bite you later.

"Your Mother said he's too Old and your Father, said where did I hide my baseball bat?"

Edit previous you're's for your..................damn...

I don't think it's her either, but the possibility made momentary sense. Oh, yeah..

I too am an adult who will recommend not fooling around at work. There is a famous old saying, "don't **** where you eat". Well, it was famous some time ago; I don't know about now. The overall wisdom of that is correct, and in some companies can bring big trouble; also, even if someone leaves, reputation follows.

On the other hand, I have a friend who married the guy she would have been fired for dating if the company knew about it, and the marriage has lasted.
Looking at that with my older eagle eye, I don't think either of them was taking advantage of the other re any work status or harassment conditions. But even with that so, it can mess up the work atmosphere, and mess it up in a big way. Thus, the famous old saying I described above.

I am also not sure that all company resource departments (and so on) subscribe to that; rules may be more nuanced now than what I remember.

In this present posting situation, the red flags are flapping.