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22 and not sure of my sexuality? Just don't want to mess people about either.

 
 
Reply Tue 24 Mar, 2015 11:39 am
I tried using a dating app last week, showing results of girls. I did have a match on there and sent messages but nothing really came about. Something was stopping me wanting to meet her, never invited

In the past, I have always been saying "I'm straight". I've been on short dates with girls in the past (nothing serious), but at school I had this obsession with one girl who I wanted to be mine. I tried so much and it never happened. Quite freaky looking back at it. Anyway, since then and occasionally fancying a girl, nothing's really happened.

I would love to be a dad, and always have that picture of a woman, man and child in my head. But I'm not sure if that's all just a fantasy...

A friend of mine came out as gay who I knew from school, we spoke after that and I was very acceptable of it. I went round to his and watched a movie once, we were sat on the sofa and he asked me to "tickle and massage his feet because he just liked it"... I did think it was a little strange but I just sat there and did it. It made me think if I was gay.

I'll admit, I do look at some guys and think they're good looking. (same as girls). I don't imagine me being with them though.

My porn preferences seem to be gay - mainly male solo masturbation. I don't tend to watch any penetrating vids, it's not like I imagine me doing it but rarely it's straight porn!

Also in straight porn, I end up looking at the guy a lot of the time.

Please help me. I still don't know what I can do to be sure!? I'm a bit afraid to date anyone or want to try anything at the moment. Is this the moment I need to try dating guys, even though that still doesn't seem right?
 
neologist
 
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Reply Tue 24 Mar, 2015 12:22 pm
@smilethroughlife,
Same sex attractions are common.

They do not define your sexuality.

My initial advice is to use your equipment according to its design. It avoids a heck of a lot of problems.
PUNKEY
 
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Reply Tue 24 Mar, 2015 01:13 pm
Most likely, you are a "late bloomer" and just need to get out there and interact with girls AND guys. Then, and only, then, can you decide what your sexual preference is.

As of right now, you have done nothing that indicates you are "gay, straight, bi" or any other definition.

What do you do to meet other people?
neologist
 
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Reply Tue 24 Mar, 2015 01:29 pm
@PUNKEY,
Sounds like a plan
smilethroughlife
 
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Reply Tue 24 Mar, 2015 01:36 pm
@neologist,
Thank you for your advice Smile
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smilethroughlife
 
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Reply Tue 24 Mar, 2015 01:39 pm
@PUNKEY,
Thank you for your advice... I am trying dating sites for women at the moment, to see how the dates go (if any). I will be able to get a clear view on if this feels right then... Maybe I should do a date with a few guys too?
neologist
 
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Reply Tue 24 Mar, 2015 01:58 pm
@smilethroughlife,
I'd save the guys for later.
Here's how it works:
Date 50 girls. Nobody pays attention.
Date 1 guy. Everybody brands you as gay.
ehBeth
 
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Reply Tue 24 Mar, 2015 02:52 pm
@smilethroughlife,
What are you doing to meet people in real life?

Do you go to a gym? Are you a member of any clubs or social groups? Do you attend any Meetups? Do you go to community festivals/events?
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giujohn
 
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Reply Tue 24 Mar, 2015 03:28 pm
@neologist,
Quote:
My initial advice is to use your equipment according to its design. It avoids a heck of a lot of problems.



Thats a pretty puritanical and parochial opinion.
giujohn
 
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Reply Tue 24 Mar, 2015 03:31 pm
Life is too short to be unhappy. Try it with both a guy and a girl then decide which makes you happy...maybe you're bi...who knows.
neologist
 
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Reply Tue 24 Mar, 2015 03:51 pm
@giujohn,
giujohn wrote:
. . . Thats a pretty puritanical and parochial opinion.
Not ashamed of it. Has less potential for regrets.
giujohn
 
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Reply Tue 24 Mar, 2015 03:53 pm
@neologist,
Says you!
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neologist
 
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Reply Tue 24 Mar, 2015 03:57 pm
@neologist,
Like I said above:
Quote:
Date 50 girrls. Nobody pays attention
Date 1 guy. Everybody thinks you're gay
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smilethroughlife
 
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Reply Wed 25 Mar, 2015 02:04 am
@giujohn,
thank you Smile
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