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Fri 13 Feb, 2015 03:52 pm
I met this one guy two year's ago, we became best friends and could talk about anything, after a few months we started dating, I was madly in love, 4 months later he left me, found out later it was for another girl, we stayed best friends, although I was still madly in love and he knew it. A year later I met another guy, extremely sweet, other than my player ex, we started dating, even though I was still madly in love with my ex, in the mean time my ex told me he still has feelings for me, but we were still friends and every time I would see him my world would stand still, I couldn't think walk or breath. My boyfriend knew that and he helped me all the way, another year has passed and I can't imagine my life without my current boyfriend, I said goodbye to my ex and never saw or talked to him again, untill a few weeks ago, I dreamt about him and saw him that day, who dreams about their ex and sees him the exact same day, anyway, when I saw him I wanted him again I wanted him in my life, to hug him again and talk to him again, we used to walk around at night talking for 7 hours straight, yes 7 hours, we loved our time together, although he gave me muxed signals telling me every time he cares for me and he doesn't know why I like him that much seeing that he is a player he wants better for me. I want all of that again, but I am happy in this relationship I have now and I love the guy, but Itthink I might also love my ex. What does it mean and what should I do, any advice
@mylittleangel,
Player ex? how old are all of you? Your player may not be ready to settle down to forty or sixty years of togetherness, for good reasons.
Do you have any plans for your own life?
@mylittleangel,
You've got nostalgia, and only for the positive parts of the older relationship. Maybe remember that he dumped you for someone else the next time you get all hot and bothered about him.
@mylittleangel,
Relax. Take a deep breath.
And listen to Osso.
(Edit) Jes, too
@mylittleangel,
Pardon my bluntness ...but, there's a lot of immaturity, fickleness, some poor self-esteem and manipulation going on here. Just saying.
Work on your impulse control. Stick with your loyal more recent b/f. You're in lust with your ex and have some nostalgia; however, you still feel quite attracted to current b/f...right?
At a young age (say about 25 and under), there tends to be a lot less impulse control. Hopefully you can work on leaving what has happened in the past in the past...unless you want to ruin your chances for a more solid recent relationship...just because hormones are steering the ship.
@Ragman,
I couldn't agree with you more. It's amazing how many people lack values and don't even think about how their partner would feel in situations like this simply because they have no impulse control?? We can only hope that this is a learning curve for her and she grows up and realises the destruction it causes. Although I have met people over the age of 25 who lack impulse control. There's actually a member on A2k (I won't name who) is 50 years married and still acting in this way... I don't know, the world just isn't like it use to be anymore??
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