@parados,
What SR deceptively presents to you as "equivalent frames" quickly gets transformed, by way of verbal "sleight of hand." to frames that are DECIDEDLY UNEQUAL.
1. First SR tells you that, for purposes of doing experiments in a room where you are stripped of any extended use of your senses and of ALL external knowledge and information, "all frames are equivalent."
Fine, I have no problem with that. I agree completely.
2. Then SR tells you that, since frames are equivalent, it is perfectly "legitimate" to use any old frame you want, and there are, and can be, no "preferred" frames.
This is quite debatable, actually, but let's just say I agree, what now?
3. That means you are "entitled" to treat your own frame as being absolutely motionless.
Really? Why would THAT follow? But, lets say I agree. Now what.?
4. Here comes the switch: So since you are "entitled" to treat yourself as "motionless" we now say you MUST treat yourself (your frame of reference) as absolutely motionless (if it's inertial).
Can I treat it as "possibly" moving with respect to another object? Like, maybe just a little bit, like, say 10 mph while the other is doing maybe 1000 mph? NO!
Can I treat the other guy as being stationary, when there is relative motion between us? MOST DEFINITELY NOT!!
But I though all frames were "equivalent?" SR: Well, think again, Pal. Some frames are more "equivalent" than others. YOUR frame is always it's own "ether," completely motionless.
But isn't that what you would call a "preferred frame?" NO!! We NEVER call it that.