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Mon 26 Jan, 2015 01:46 am
Well im a 16 year old girl who has liked boys since forever. I was in a serious relationship for a year and few months, although we recently broke up. Things weren't the same to me as before and I figured we needed some time apart. However during the break I started getting closer to my friend.. Which is a girl. My feelings toward this girl began to grow a bit and I liked her more than just a friend. We talk all the time now and we have kissed. I'm just confused on where I am about this. I still talk to my ex boyfriend and I love him more than anything although im not sure if I want him like I want her. I don't even like other girls, it's just her actually. I cant see myself talking with other girls in that way without feeling weird. Is this me just looking for comfort because of the break up? Or because I might actually like her? This is all so confusing and I have no idea what to do about this!
@Tina113,
I've heard that sexuality isn't a black-or-white thing. It's more of a sliding scale. I don't think you have to worry about anything. Like who you want to like in the way that you want to like them. Let nature handle it. Even if it turned out that you were gay, so what? Lots of people are. It's not a disease.
Don't you worry about a thing. Plenty of women like both sides.
Were you sexually active with your BF?
You are spending a lot of time with this girl, getting physically close and sharing close secrets. You have sexual desires and so does she at your age. It is no wonder that you are moving toward a physical relationship with her.
Yes, it could be that you are transferring your physical needs to her. And she is responding.
If this is making you feel uncomfortable, then cut back on the time you spend with her - and find another boyfriend.
@PUNKEY,
Yes I was sexually active with my ex, and more then often actually.. And maybe my sexual needs are transferring over to her. I mean she is a girl and most girls know what they want when it comes to being sexual.
I'm not uncomfortable about it either, I'm actually enjoying it a bit more then I should be to be honest. Not even feeling regret with my break up. So I should just face the fact that I might be gay?
Not necessarily. You are being turned on sexually by a person you are close to, physical and emotionally. It happened with your BF, and now with a girl.
Kids your age have HUGE sexual urges. But - you don't have to act on them every time they happen (just like you don't have to eat every time you are hungry)
I am a person who thinks sexual activity is not a casual thing and should be between people who can commit to each other, even for a teen-time. So dignify that activity, no matter who you engage with.
Don't think you are "gay" or have any other label across your head.
But know that if guys see you in that role of preferring other girls, they will back away. I wonder if you want that, considering your young age and your past experience with a guy.
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