did she lie, cheat or use me? im confused.

Did she lie and or cheat on me or was it to get me paranoid?

I met a woman through work. We got together and hit it off. We spent all our time together, even though this was nice at first, we sometimes needed time out. She told me, that she has 3 children in different countries and has had 2 failed marriages and one current husband who have had an on and off relationship for 6yrs. She said they argued all the time.

She was open about her life, and told me she cheated on 2 husbands and kissed a guy when she was working away and on a break. I appreciated the apparent openness, though didn't believe the story fully. She owns a house in her home country. She told me she split with her current husband in Jan, though slept with him in June. And came here for time out, to travel and clear her head We got together in august. She has a child with him and visits every 6 weeks..she stays at his house with them both for a week.. When she went to visit the first time, she would keep in touch.

She came back all dolled up and dressed like a woman from his country. I wasn't to attached at that time.

We often argued and mostly it would be instigated by her. She would then go and disapear to visit places. She would show me abusive messages from him, and one time told me he sent one stating he loved her.

Before the first time she visited them, she gave me her purse in the store. No condoms. When she came back, 2 condoms. She said they were there a long time, though when I told her they were not, she said they were put in through habit.
So she took them out and put them back in...though we never used them. I couldn't let go of this.

She / we was very sexual and she bought kinky underwear before she went away, though wore it for me. She also talked of anal, though Id never done this or wanted to. Her moods were often up and down..she talked about missing her children. Though things she would do and say didn't add up. I became attached to her.

I looked in her phone one day and wondered why he was always angry at her and accusing her of having a fella. I asked her to tell him, though she said it would make him depressed and cause issues with their son. He was out of work and a home father. She would often concern herself with his life. I gave time for this and she said she would tell him after the next time she visited.

She had to find somewhere else to work and live during the time she was away. I also emailed her saying I thought she cheated. She said thanks for the trust. She phoned me when she was there, though put the phone down because he was coming back at the house. I told her I felt uncertain and didn't feel secure. She said she loved me and came back to near me and found work / a place. We argued some more after she said we could only have a weeks holiday as she needed to look after her child while he worked. I got angry and called her selfish for everything being about what her husband wanted.

I calmed down and we began to patch it up, one evening during this, I asked if she wanted a lift home after work, she phoned me after and said she was getting a lift off someone else. I found out after talking to a pal it was a guy who is known for being a player.

Aside from this . She told me she'd thought about leaving and working elsewhere since we were together. I stayed with her that night though we didn't have sex. Next morning I looked in her phone, which she had put a password on, apparently so he couldn't read emails. Texts etc. I read a conversation about a new build property for sale on a road in her country from him...for a certain amount.

Then I read her confess to him why she kissed guys in the pub, her response was because she felt unwanted.

I confronted her and we argued.

She left that day. To the city and works elsewhere. She accused me of making hung Herr homeless and blamed me for everything and being crazy.

I paid her phone bill so it was in my name... I saw she was on the phone to him 10mins after I walked out. We have talked though when it comes to me visiting her she becomes defensive and even threatens me with the cops. She said they are coming to visit here in a few weeks. So she needs space.

3 weeks ago she came here for a hospital apt, we spent the day and slept together..we arranged to meet halfway again and got on well. 2 days later she said she was vulnerable and confused. There text me to say she didn't love me anymore and is going to live in her country with both of therm..all for her children. I had felt at times, she flirted or did stuff with co workers. Though I didn't here anything.

Not sure what was going on