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Fri 12 Dec, 2014 05:40 pm
So, basically for the past 2 months, I've been trying to court this girl in my class. As the semester is coming to a close, and I am 100% that no relationship will transpire between us, I want to "delete" her from memory. I have absolutely no interest in just remaining friends with her because if I try, stronger feelings will ALWAYS keep appearing, possibly hurting a friendship. What I want to know is, do I let her know of my decision to cut things off with her completely or do I just vanish, and never explain myself? Obviously, if I do decide to inform her, I will do it in the most genuine, polite way possible. What do you peoples think?
@rangers23,
Why would bother you tell her?
She obviously doesn't have any interest in you.
You're making this about yourself.
What? You're going to just "vanish" to the other side of the world or something?
@rangers23,
If you vanish, you will never have to explain yourself......
What I suggest you look into is that infatuation between humans happens often, often not mutually, and even then, it is often a role of fantasy dice.
I can honestly tell you that explaining myself is not an attempt at getting with her. I view it as the sensible thing to do because completely blocking all contact with a friend feels wrong.
By "vanish", I basically mean no more involvement in each others lives. At all.
I don't know. If someone you've befriended all of a sudden stops all type of contact ( Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook, etc.) and deleting your number, wouldn't you want to know why? Or am I wrong for thinking that? Anyways, I'm still mulling over this decision and I really appreciate the help guys. Thanks.
@rangers23,
rangers23 wrote:If someone you've befriended all of a sudden stops all type of contact ( Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook, etc.) and deleting your number, wouldn't you want to know why?
Your original question and your follow-up both suggest that you were being clingy and needy or "coming on too strong", and the girl decided to put a stop to it.
"If someone you've befriended all of a sudden stops all type of contact ( Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook, etc.) and deleting your number . . ."
Stop acting like you have NO inkling about WHY a girl (or anyone) would 'suddenly' do this.
If you are THAT ignorant about your actions and other people's reactions to those actions, then you deserve this "mysterious" response.
Come on, THINK!!!!!
@rangers23,
Will you be going to different schools next semester?
If not, you won't be vanishing. You just won't be in internet contact.
If she is curious about why you're not in contact with her in the future, she will ask. There is no need to inform her.
@rangers23,
rangers23 wrote: If someone you've befriended all of a sudden stops all type of contact ( Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook, etc.) and deleting your number, wouldn't you want to know why?
maybe if I thought I was in a relationship with the person cutting off contact. otherwise, no.
if it's the same girl as your other thread, she's already told you she's not interested in a relationship.
you're not close enough to her to need to discuss this with her - it might just annoy her
@PUNKEY,
Punkey - he is thinking of cutting contact. It is not her cutting contact.
@ehBeth,
You're right. I am not close enough to her to feel a need to explain anything. I just needed to hear it from someone else. Thanks a lot guys, you helped make this choice a lot simpler.
@rangers23,
good luck rangers23
I hope you find someone who likes you the way you like them
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