@mike212,
Have you ever considered that she feels sorry for him.
He is working but can't afford to fix his truck, lives with his Father and is a looser as he has 4 different children to different women, perhaps he's draining her, perhaps she is just trying to be helpful.
Is it that you have a stigma about racism, size and feel in-secure?
She works you work, maybe she is sick of cooking every single day because you say you don't have time?
Even writing this post suggests that perhaps you think something is missing in your Marriage and/or expectation that she should do all the cooking as you don't have time but both work.
What she says.
What hasn't she said is more to the question.
People that play together, stay together.
People that expect everything laid out on the table don't