looking for a woman's thoughts on my girlfriend posable cheating on me

Here's my story. Been with my girlfriend for 4 years.things have been good through out. She just turned 41 and already started with the hot flashes and all that.. I kinda understand it from my X wife.anyways . sex has been slowing down some as for the newness in a fresh relationship. Understandable. Anyways I started getting a gut feeling that something was wrong. Kissing started changing along with the slowing down of not wanting to do it much any more. As so she says.. we do not live together. So I decided to do something not so cool . I bugged her apartment.i know not cool. Bear with me. My girlfriend is pretty open with joking around with friends/ coworkers. I'm all good with that. I kinda do know the all. Anyways, where I picked up on recording device was quote.....her being on the phone at 11:00 at night (she's usually in bed by 9 or 10...) was , ya I was doing the same on my bed thinking about you while he, (that's me) was on the bed sleeping ... with a ha ha ha...conversation went on but couldn't hear on his end. Then she said.no bitting . Then saying bye. After that she stretched and said, ooohhh, I gotta sleep alone again. I confronted her the next day on the phone and asked if she's been talking to anybody on the phone late at night. She said no. I said an exact word that she said. Not a sexuall word.at that point she asked, what did you tap my phone . What could I say. We talked a bit about it and soon after I drove to her house. Pulled out recorder and said let's listen to this. She said no. I said to bad were gonna anyways. Started listening to it half a minute later she said I'm not listening to that .. this was thanksgiving day. Needless to say,I had a shitty weekend.. I slammed her with what she said all weekend. Tells me it was a joke , the part about she was doing the same. Asked her what he said for her to say that. She didn't remember. I knew about all her coworkers and jokes about sex at work. Thought some of it was pretty funny too.. and i was good with it a,l at work. Everybody does it at work from time to time.the one odd thing is that I didn't know about this guy. He is the company's sub contractor electrican.. been four 4years. Never heard about his jokes tho.. or him.. so my question is was this just another 11:00 pm night on the phone joke.iv never been at her house past 9 on a week night. No telling how long this has been going on. Bottom line what's it sound like to you...thanks



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