Is love overrated?

How do you know that you have never been loved? How can you possibly know what another person may or may not have felt for you? What do you expect to happen when someone else loves you? Just askin'.

That's a very thought provoking question. Thank you for asking it.
While it is certainly true that I am without the ability to know the thoughts of another I would assume that if another person ever loved me that love would be apparent by the individual's expressed desire to be in my life day to day, spend time with me when possible, have an ongoing relationship with me of either a platonic or romantic nature and would at some point have led to a conversation (on at least one occasion) that consisted of dialogue pertaining to how much I am loved/appreciated/enjoyed/cared for and/or how much the relationship or time spent with me in the relationship was/is valued. I have never had an ongoing relationship with a person that was not related to work nor have I ever been told I was loved,pursued nor sought out to spend time with another person or even been the recipient of many telltale gestures such as hugs or affectionate touching outside of gestures that accompany dialogue such as "This is a very thoughtful gift/gesture/act,thank you so much!" or "Really sorry your brother died". If anyone has ever loved me it has never been expressed physically,verbally in writing or via gesture. The only way a person has ever loved me is if they fell in love from a distance,without ongoing and meaningful contact based on seriously superficial criteria and chose to keep that realization entirely to themselves. Even then that is perceived love based on superficial criteria and is not the result of anything I am or did which wouldn't meet my standard. That to me is more the definition of infatuation and having been often described as "nerdy", "plain" and "socially awkward" is a highly unlikely theory. A vixen I am not...not by any means.

It is very interested question. About non romantic love. How do you feel it?
WOW!
I grew up in a very loving family thought my father was tough on me.
My Mom is my best friend but there is no mush. We had always been friends.
Some days we were enemies but not for to long. I can't tell I felt something. Only when I was sick my Mom would go above and beyond to make me feel better. I don't think there is really showing on affection from non romantic relationships. Maybe when you are a baby.

What comes to romantic - you will know. he will want to be with you every second of his life. Hopefully it will be mutual;)

Yes, "love" is overrated. The acnients (the Greeks and Romans) considered romantic love to be a mild form of mental illness. For thousands of years, marriages have been arranged, and in the best cases (those arranged without political motive), they usually worked out fairly well, because they were arranged with a view to the material security of the coupe.

We can like a great many people, and mature adults can learn to live together with a great many people. I'd say the best way to establish a relationship is to get to know a person in a wide variety of situations, and to look out for the danger signs of underlying anger and ungovernable temper (the most likely conditions of immaturity in men). Even then, one can be mistaken. I'd say not to waste your time looking for "love." Look for a compatible partner. Who knows, you might get lucky and find a lover, too.

We all know what happened to ancient Empires, right? So let's not go by what they thought...

The Roman Empire lasted for over 2000 years--how long has your homeland been in business? Let's not go by flippant, superficial judgement.

I would take friendship over love anyday. Romantic love, in particular, is most often fleeting and undependable. I wouldn't make life-long decisions based on it.



It is and you are most definitely OK in my book.



Absolutely. Nobody gets to choose which family they're born into and don't have much choice about the people they end up surrounded by at work or wherever. Your situation is as much a reflection on them as it is you, I'd say.



I imagine that you'd get a lot of different answers to that one. For me, it has tended to start out as a feeling of affirmation, and thus, comfort. However, over time it has usually evolved into a burden. It would take too long to explain the details.

The way you write and discuss your past gives me the impression that you're an intelligent and level-headed person. Perhaps you're just surrounded by idiots?