Went to Crimson Cocktails, the Harvard alum singles event last night. The setting was elegant and the food was marvelous. Glenfiddich distellry offered some of their wares as a tasting. Wonderful to even a non- hard alcohol drinker!
The same badly dressed atty and the same boring surgeon were there. But the male population was larger. Talked to several men. Two were not interested in me and I wasn't interested in three. Thought one that I was not interested in because of his age was very nice but he also is timid about food and he thought the offerings were too adventuresome for him.
Saw a woman I had talked with at last year's edition. She and I and two other women were observing body language. A woman who appeared in her late 30s, early 40s, with a strapless dress that was too tight across her tummy and hips has cornered a man. He was about 6'2" and she a foot shorter. She bored him but stayed with him and actually leaned against him by the end of the evening!
We wanted to do the meow thing and walk up to her and say, "Honey, let your dress out on the bottom. It's too tight across your a$$." and "We're here to rescue this poor man. Can't you read his body language?"
plainoldme--
If Prince Charming can't rescue himself, he probably has other flaws.
You're right as usual, Noddy.
I didn't want to rescue him but to point out to the woman in question that her aggression and ego were out of whack.
First of all, there was the tight strapless dress. The woman was about a size 10 as it is today. Small breasted but not really thin with thick legs.
Wearing a strapless dress to alumni association sponsored single event on a day that was breezy and not warm was saying, "here I am!"
Was rather amazed to be dismissed by two men with single sentences of conversation. That usually doesn't happen. did not think the other women who talked with the white haired ponytailed man were above average although the women were better looking than the men.
Who can fathom the mind of a man? Particularly when the man is on the prowl and feeling wretchedly out of place. Women just have more social savvy than men do.
I still think meeting face to face is better than meeting on line. The crazy woman who was married four times said she goes to Casablanca, a bar in Harvard Sq twice a week. First, can not afford it. Second, the old adage if you meet in a bar, you'll end in a bar applies.
plainoldme wrote:he said, "I'm prepared to go home with you tonight. I brought my tooth brush."
lol! That is just amazing .. damn! <shakes head>
I think I'm gonna throw up.
nimh, eva,
That was rather condescendingly said.
He failed to leave any room for my feelings in his statement.
Am thinking of trying instant dating next.
The event, however, is only as good as the people who attend it.
What ever happened to good old fashioned courting, and keeping a cool head, maybe even listening to your date? Why are so many single people so creepy? "I brought my toothbrush" indeed...
cavfancier,
The problem is that you can't court without meeting. This man jumped the gun, so to speak. But, he also is aware that he has a bit of a problem. When he told his life story, he eliminated the second marriage, which is part of the reason why I was charmed. The second marriage slipped out later, which is another reason why I am glad we lingered over our coffee and tea. He had a brief second marriage to someone he had known very shortly before marrying her. Seems to me that if he had waited a bit, and got to know her better, there might not have been a marriage.
Furthermore, his first wife was pregnant with they married which was why they married. Although he realized good intentions were not enough to keep the marriage together, he was about to rush into the same thing that got him into trouble in the first place.
Impetuous at more than 50!
I think that for the most part, thanks to the high divorce rate, about 50% of the pool of the opposite sex is available at almost any time with the possible exception of the decade of the 30s which several theories see as a time of householding and cocooning. There were tons of men around when I was divorced in my 40s but I think most of them are settled in again which leads me to conclude pickings are slim in the decade of the 50s.
I have an idea of what I want: a widower, who is either a college prof or a physician, who doesn't want to retire and who will maintain a small practice or consultanship or will continue to teach one class. There are other things I definitely want -- certain politics, an adverturous palate, an interest in theatre, art and film -- and others that don't really matter, like eye color.
Hmm, I suppose for someone young, I'm pretty old-fashioned in my views. I have a lovely wife, and while marriage is work, I think I'd be way less happy single. I might add, impetuous, yes. It's nice that he was honest in the long run, but sometimes too much honesty on a first date just scares people away. Question: Would you have perceived him differently if he had talked about his history with you before mentioning the toothbrush? I often think it's the way people communicate with one another today that mucks things up.
Sorry, pom. Didn't mean to be condescending, just repulsed. He may have been a great guy, but that showed a definite lack of people skills. He sounded so desperate it made me ill.
He did talk about his history first.
Actually, at my age, I am not going to jump into bed with someone I just met, even if I thought he was Mr. Wonderful.
And I did like the fact that he was honest.
When I did the regular (as opposed to internet) personals a dozen years ago, I met a fat little English prof from a local college who kissed my hand when he walked me back to my car. I had found him so repulsive during dinner that I could not sit with my legs under the bench of the booth and kept them curled along side the booth, ready for an instant flight.
