I had an affair

Google how to block a number on your particular brand and model of phone. Delete her contact info, and have any emails go to spam. Unfriend and block her on Facebook, don't follow her on Twitter or Instagram, etc.

If she still manages to get through to you, tell her you're not interested. Slam the door in her face if you have to; tell your wife and have her do it, whatever.

Say no and mean it.

Get a new hobby.

All that TIME you took to keep up this affair will have to be filled somehow. (I'd advise you to re-direct it to your marriage, but I be that's something you don't really want to do)

I have done what you mentioned and the not interested part sounds like the right reply. thanks

My wife and I get along just fine, just there is not much conversation from her side. Any conversation is short. I tried talking to her many times about it but its just her personality. With the other women we could talk the hours away and I really miss that. its like being alone when someones right next to you. She never knew about the affair and still doesn't. Thanks for the reply

When I hear that, I really wonder about what's going on at home.

Are there children? does she work? care for elderly parents? physically sick? She sounds like she's shut down.

You don't say much about what's going on with her, but believe me, she KNOWS that your heart is somewhere else. No one can cover that up for years.

Please consider marriage counseling. Then, if you two separate, at least you will learn how to make a plan to do that. If you desire more intimacy in your relationship, then at least try to re-kindle what you had with her before seeking it elsewhere.

May I ask your ages?

So you love a woman who said she can't be with you because you are married.
Why not to make it right and divorce your wife and marry loved one?
Please, answer this, it is very important to me. Thanks

I am trying so hard to understand why men who seem not in love with their wives are still hanging on to them like there was a reason.
I want to know that reason.

SHE had ended an affair.
WHY is the door in HER face?
WHY is she still a bad one here?

He said he wanted a way to say no. I gave him one. That's all.

we are in our 50s, there are no problems with anything but conversation. We do date night a couple times a week, go out to dinner, watch movies. We have a good sex life. Our kids are grown nothing else going on. My wife is going to wonder why I ask to go to marriage counseling. I got that many here would think bad of me for what I have done and I deserve that. I was hoping someone could tell me how to deal with the hurting.

I love my wife too. I didn't find it difficult to love two women. Thanks to everyone who replied, talking about this does help.

What did you tell your wife you were doing when you were with your girlfriend?

You've got time to fill - so why not actually do what you were claiming to do?

Do you have any hobbies/interests? take up running - challenge yourself with local marathons or triathlons.

I have my own business, being away and time of the day is not unusual, its the night time that is bad, i am busy during the day and evenings

join a 24 hour gym?

really

I looked into that at one point - I was surprised how many there were.

I get the point, keep busy doing something. Thanks

I am not trying to be funny but can you love another woman to make it 3 not 2?
How is this going? For 6 years you are loving 2 women. Why just 2? Or not just 1?
This crap drives me crazy.

I don't know, I didn't start out or make a plan to cheat. It happened over several years

Today I can say I feel better, thank you all for your prayers, thoughts and well wishes.

Just out of curiosity...what made you decide you didn't want the affair anymore? Was it guilt? Did you love one more than the other?