Am I Being Too Harsh?

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I have had bad relationships in the past and over the years i have allowed myself to be used as a doormat. I have blocked all of my ex boyfriends from facebook. I have even ignored they're emails. I delete them. It has gotten to that point in my life where i refuse to connect to the male gender. Considering the fact that i always attract the wrong ones. I don't deny the fact that there are nice guys out there. I do believe that there is a guy out there for me. But right now at this point in my life. I have cut men from my life. I don't need the hassale of dealing with another person. I am tired of giving in, I am tired of the games. I know that I deserve so much better than this. I hope I don't sound too harsh? I just want my space, some me time.

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@christiemarie86,

It's your life, and nobody else's.

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@christiemarie86,

why the repeat post?

http://able2know.org/topic/257500-1#post-5792825

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@Ragman,

This is a completely different question. I am simply asking if i sound harsh by not talking to these men?

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@christiemarie86,

If they've walked all over you, why is there a question in your mind?

On the other hand, cutting all men out completely out of your life is a whole other issue. Do you really want to do that? Or do you just need to set and make your boundaries clearer and stick to it.

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@christiemarie86,

Yeah, I don't think it's a repeat post either. The 1st one (scanning it quickly) was you talking about things that have happened. In this one you're talking about what you're doing about it.

Everyone needs a break sometimes christie, you don't HAVE to have a boyfriend all the time. You don't even have to associate with men for a period of time if you don't want to.

You're not anti-man, you acknowledged there're nice ones out there.

It's just not the time for you to be involved with one. Figure out and play with who you are for a time. Then, when you're ready in the future to be open to someone, you'll have a much stronger self knowledge base to fall back on.

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@christiemarie86,

BTW, welcome to A2K. Hope things turn out the best for you.

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@christiemarie86,

If you always attract the same type of men who are treating you badly,
you have to analyze and assess your pattern of behavior as to why.
I think you should seek the help of a professional who can point out
these patterns to you and teach you how to avoid them in future.

Good luck!

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Thanks everyone for expressing you're thoughts on the matter. Yes, i do agree that a counselor would be most helpful for me. I do need to stay alert in certain situations. Thanks much everyone! Deeply appreciated!

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@christiemarie86,

You seem to be talking with men here (or should I not say anything).

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@maxdancona,

She's also talked to 2 women on this thread, as well as 2 men. Rolling Eyes

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