My girlfriend gets texts and late night texts from her "guy friend". Should i be worried?

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I've been dating this girl for 6 months now. Everything is going well and i trust her. Recently though this guy texts her when he thinks I'm not around and late night on a night I wasn't supposed to be there. He wrote how are you? The next day I asked her and she said he wanted to tell me about some girl he met. That seems to be the conversation always between these two. I asked why he doesn't text when I'm not there she said he does but I've never seen him text her (except the one night, and one other time). Then she got mad saying staking her phone but not once did I ever look through her phone. She says she has nothing to hide but why does she get mad that I notice her texting when I'm right next to her. If there was nothing to hide why should she care if I ask who's she's texting and what about. I could see if I asked her everything but that's not the case. Idk what to think should I be concerned or am I just thinking to much?

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[+3] - maxdancona - 10/16/2014Is it a problem for your girlfriend to have other guy friends. I have several close friends who happen to be female that I have never been romantically involved with. I text them on occasion...

@Arzillo08,

Quit looking over her shoulder when she's texting.

Is she initiating this? From what you've written, she isn't. He's (possibly) a jerk, but she clearly just considers him to be a friend.

Saying that you trust her means actually doing so, and not just claiming to do so.

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@Arzillo08,

Is it a problem for your girlfriend to have other guy friends.

I have several close friends who happen to be female that I have never been romantically involved with. I text them on occasion (sometimes even to ask for romantic advice since women friends are good for that). I don't drop good friends just because they or I start dating someone.

I don't see there is any issue here other than the question of whether you trust her or not.

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Your GF should have many friends - both male and female.

But the middle of the night texting is inappropriate. So is texting when you two are on a date - AND your GF thinking she has to answer his texts when she's with you.

Tell your GF to set some guidelines about when and where this male friend can text her. That's not too much to ask, IMO.

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@PUNKEY,

I don't know... texts are asynchronous. You can ignore them until you are ready to answer. A text is pretty innocuous, I don't see it is an issue. If I have a new girlfriend and I want to talk about it, I might send a text to a friend without thinking about it.

It isn't like he is coming to her house for a drink.

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@Arzillo08,

My advice is - Seek your own council.
Everyone is different - And mobiles (cells, US) are the nemesis of relationships.
I can't wait until the power goes down FOREVER and people crawl out of their mobile crypts and become communities once more.

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@maxdancona,

I get what your saying.. But--do you send texts to your gal pals in the middle of the night? Just curious.

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@Arzillo08,

Arzillo08 wrote:

why does she get mad that I notice her texting when I'm right next to her.

maybe you could both agree to turn your mobiles off while you're on a date / spending time together

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