confused...

Wait ... what?

You've been together for 2 years and you have no idea where this person lives?

This is a massive, burning, seventy-foot wide red flag. Whether he is married, closeted (from your use of the term partner, I am assuming you are two men in a relationship together), or God only knows what else, this is a pretty major piece of information to be withheld from you for a significant length of time.

What happens if you suggest something like, "Dave (or whatever his name is), let's mix it up and go to your place for a change?"

You have suggested something like that in the over 700 days you've been dating, right?

Uh, right?

Maybe he's a spy or something. Didja ever consider that jes? Well?

Spys can't just go telling people where they live, or be held down to schedules and stuff.

Yes, this is right. I do not know. He brought me to a neighbourhood once and told me that this is the neighbourhood where he lives, but he is not allowed to take people to the house because he lives with his landlord and he does not think his landlord will be happy about him having someone over. He is 42 years old, and yes he does have a job.

Yeah, the spy story would be next. You're way ahead of yourself, Chai - first came the landlord story.

Todayisit: I hope your name is an indication that today is the day you won't
put up with this bullshit any longer and wake up and smell the coffee.
How can you be so gullible and assume the guy is telling you the truth?

Either he invites you to his house tomorrow, or you send him packing. He's leading you on, big time, and you're a sucker - big time too!

Witness protection.

Seriously, the guy's landlord is dictating his behaviors? That's an awesomely lame excuse.

I think his landlords name is Mrs. Boyfriend.