@maxdancona,
My kids are 17 and 14. We have lived in several different area's of Denver metro with different degree's of whiteness. They haven't always fit in but we raised them to know it didn't make a difference what color they were or others are. My oldest mainly hangs out with white kids as he is into really heavy metal music, and there are not a lot of minorities that are into heavy metal music. My youngest mainly hangs out with hispanic kids and his girlfriend is hispanic as well. He has short wavy/curly hair and has darker colored skin then his older brother.
I was one of a few "whites", as the other kids called me, in my neighborhood in the north burbs of IL. All of my friends from the time I started school until I moved to CO were hispanic. I grew up in a barrio. Was I picked on by the other kids? Yes I was. Did I have to fight a lot growing up? Yes I did for the first few years of school. Did it impact me or scare me? Nope.
My ex-wife who is white and black, had more issues with black students in schools then she ever did white students. The black girls in her school didn't like her at all. She didn't fit in with them and "wasn't really black". That game them all the ammo they needed to mess with her. Until her older sister stepped in and kicked some ass one day, after that she was good to go and didn't have any other issues.
So I have experience from all sides of this.