Robin Banks wrote:
... My money goes into her bank account every month for our savings. I've just got her insured to drive my car ... She decides where we go on holiday and I go with the flow. When we go out for something to eat its my girlfriend who always decides where we go ... When we order our meals, even if I really have a craving for a certain meal, I won't order it if I know she doesn't like it because I know she likes to pick at my meals ... I love salt on some of my foods but ...
Reading all that post makes me think you have a pretty good working relationship, and I don't think you have much to worry about, really. You just need to calm down a bit, maybe, and try not to worry so much. She clearly cares about you and sees your relationship as a shared life. To be honest, your girl sounds like a gem, and I can tell you love her.
I see a lot in your relationship that reminds me of me and my partner. She doesn't use any salt (high blood pressure) but I like it on my food. Also she is vegetarian and I love my meat but I also like veggie stuff too. If we go for an Indian or Chinese she will have something non-meat and I will have whatever I want, so the question of her wanting to pick at my food would not arise. Personally I would put my foot down, in a friendly way, if she tried to make me have a veggie thing and put no salt on it, just because she might want to pick at it. But I think your girl might be thinking of your health and pretending it's for another reason to save your pride. (Caring partners often do things like this in my experience). You might be too young to remember the ads on the TV for Flora margarine with Terry Wogan's voice telling wives to think of their husband's hearts and switch from butter.
When we go to a high standard veggie restaurant we will often order two different main meals and when they arrive each of us divides everything on the plate into equal halves, then eat our half and swap plates. Our friends think we are crazy but I have seen other couples doing this. Because the dish is split I can happily put salt on my part and not worry about her sodium intake. In actual fact I have cut down my salt intake a lot because too much is bad for you. You may think it is unfair to have to leave off the salt sometimes, but think about your health, as she is probably doing! We both have jobs and we each have our own bank accounts, savings etc. I don't know how much she has in her bank account and I don't know to the nearest £1,000 how much she earns. We trust each other not to go crazy and blow money on stupid things. We split all outgoings down the middle. We both like the same type of music TV and films so there is never any argument about that. Bottom line: give and take on both sides.