@Talia Knowles,
First off..
...these ice bucket challenges that are all over the media are not so much about raising donations and curing ALS, but giving exposure to the donators in a narcissistic way.
Who wants to make a self-less gesture and have nothing to show their friends and peers but a tiny pin or laudatory letter?(sarcasm)
Second...
...you don't own your unfortunate illness. It's not who you are so don't make your friends define you by it and don't make them choose their philanthropic contributions according to friendship status.
Third...
welcome to A2K...we're glad you're here.