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I have a relationship situation and have no clue how to approach it.

 
 
Reply Wed 16 Jul, 2014 10:38 pm
So, my guy friend (age 17) likes me (I know this because my friend told me) and I (age 14) kind of like him back and so lately he's been telling me that he wants to talk in private and I wormed out of it twice because I don't know what to do because I don't really desire a relationship with him but I kind of do but my parents wouldn't approve because they don't want me dating and so we'd have to keep it a secret but I don't want to turn him down and make it awkward between us....so what can I do????
 
roger
 
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Reply Wed 16 Jul, 2014 11:09 pm
@Dancerdove,
Keep worming out of it, unless you're ready to tell him to get lost. Seventeen is way too old, and I would really suggest you stay away from situations that mean you have to be dishonest with your parents.

I doubt that was the opinion you wanted, but that's it.
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PUNKEY
 
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Reply Thu 17 Jul, 2014 05:56 am
@Dancerdove,
Something's wrong here. Why would a 17 year old be messing with a 14 year old?

Stay away; this sounds creepy. His "private" time means sneaking.

Remind him you are underage, too.
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jespah
 
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Reply Thu 17 Jul, 2014 05:58 am
@Dancerdove,
This guy is way too old for you, and seems to be manipulative (again, I bet you don't want to hear that). Keep out of situations where you're alone with him. Real friends don't pressure each other like this.
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CoastalRat
 
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Reply Thu 17 Jul, 2014 06:17 am
@Dancerdove,
Look, this is really an easy answer. When I was 17, a young lady caught my eye. She was sweet and very easy on the eyes. I decided to ask her out. She told me she would have to ask her parents, with which I had no problem. Then her mom called me to let me know her daughter was only 13 years old and basically questioned my sanity with wanting to date a 13 yr. old. Now, I swear she looked 15 or 16 at the time. Well developed, if you know what I mean. And she never told me she was only 13. Anyway, once I knew she was so young, I quickly backed away. She and I remain friends to this day (35+ years later) and can still laugh about it. I sometimes wonder what kind of problems would have ensued had she not told her parents about my interest in her.

The point is, if you don't think you can tell your parents about it, then it probably is not a good thing. That is a pretty good rule to follow with just about anything in life. Just tell the guy you are too young to date someone his age and just want to be friends. In 4 years, at 18 and 21, the age difference will not mean as much and if you are both available you might revisit the dating thing. (My wife was 16 and I was 20 when we began "dating," which for the first 10 months or so consisted of only getting together at her house, with mom and dad present, to hang out. They got to know me and were comfortable with the age difference. Tam and I were patient about it because we knew the difference was substantial at our ages and of course I did not want any charges brought against me by her parents. lol So be patient. You have a lot of life to live.)
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Dancerdove
 
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Reply Thu 17 Jul, 2014 10:31 pm
He asked me out today and I turned him down, thank you for all the awesome advice!
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