@Buttermilk,
I couldn't agree with you more that, in what passes as public discourse, there is far too much of the juvenile argument "
Well, he/she/they/Bush/Carter/men/women/Democrats/Republicans et al did it!'
Apparently, though, it's irresistible; despite the fact that virtually every person who uses it had to have been told a million times by the person who raised them that
"Two wrongs don't make a right!"
Unfortunately there is a popular, though specious, response to the
"two wrongs don't make a right" proposition and that is that there aren't
actually two wrongs. Only men, or whites, or straights, or the privileged etc. can be wrong. Blacks can't be racists, women can't be sexists, gays can't be bigoted, and the underprivileged can't do anything wrong at all.
For certain African-Americans, this theme is expressed in
Critical Race Theory, but I'm sure feminists, "
advocates for the poor", LGBT activists, Palestinians, American Indians, and other groups, containing individuals who cling to their victim status, have developed their own bullshit "theory" saying the same thing: Not only is the perennial victim allowed to practice the sort of behavior to which they so strongly object,
they're not even doing it when they do it. It's a sort of politically correct magic.
There are of course times when it's appropriate to raise the fact that a certain objectionable behavior occurred in the past, or under different circumstances. For instance the argument that Africans sold slaves is totally irrelevant if the question is,
Was the selling of slaves by white Europeans and Americans reprehensible? Obviously it was and the fact that black Africans did it too doesn't change this truth one iota. If the discussion is on the effect of slavery on African-Americans it might be worth noting that most of the slaves shipped from Africa to European colonies or to America were purchased from Africans. Again, it doesn't minimize the effects of institutionalized slavery, but it does present an accurate historical picture. Whether or not this advances the discussion much would be subject to its own debate. But if the topic of the debate/discussion/argument is the inherent evil of the white race as demonstrated by slavery, then it would be entirely appropriate to bring in the fact that Africans (and Asians, and American Indians) bought and sold slaves.
It's also an excellent tool for exposing hypocrisy, but this treads closely to introducing ad hominum into the debate.
In any case,
two wrongs don't make a right; no matter what the gender, race, sexual orientation or any other characteristic of one of the wrong-doers, and it is irritating, if not infuriating to see someone suggest otherwise.
To the question
"Well if men do it (objective members of the opposite sex), why can't we do it?", the obvious answer is
"Well, you can, but then either you don't think it's a big deal when men do it, or you are a hypocrite when you argue men shouldn't do it." Unfortunately, this simple response usually leaves the questioner unfazed, whether or not they subscribe to Critical Race Theory, Critical Gender Theory, Critical Economic Theory, or any other silly theory that excuses conduct by the "victim" that is condemned in the "oppressor"
Personal responsibility, and the extent to which it is valued by our society and taught to our children is a broader topic, and I can easily fill a page or two on that subject, but whether or not college professors should be teaching their students the value of personal responsibility, I agree they shouldn't be providing them pseudo-intellectual excuses for
not taking personal responsibility.
It should be possible for accurate information and a wide range of opinion and theory concerning gender dynamics to be objectively conveyed only by women, but I would have to wonder why it was only women doing so and what the implications of the fact might be. This assumes that it is a fact, which I doubt. Having said this I also doubt that having a man teach the subject will result in a less politically correct approach or even less of an underlying assumption that men are the enemy.
To the extent that there is a problem of perspective and focus in such courses it’s not caused by the gender of the instructor, but by their ideology.