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Mon 30 Jun, 2014 02:16 pm
I am a victim. I understand that not a single person will have everyone they meet like them, but should it be that way? Can't really handle it. If I feel that someone's opinion matters and that we should be friends, they should feel the same towards me. Of course, there are those whose opinion don't matter, even among those who likes me. Don't get me wrong, most ppl I meet likes me. It's the few who don't that destroys me more and more each day.
At school several years ago, Jaclyn snubbed me for no reason from the first day we met, although everyone else talked to me. I got into an altercation with Jaclyn's friend bc I was jealous, and I got kicked out. At McD's, everyone talked to me but Liz, so I ended up quitting bc liz hurt me. Now I'm 2 1/2 years into my current job and I have to deal with 4 ppl like Liz. Out of over 20 ppl I work with, 4 won't associate with me. How is that fair to me?
when I first came to town 7 years go, I was fresh out of high school, young and idealistic. I figured everyone I like would like means then some. I decided to do good at work and kicked some serious ass at a clothing store. Got the star employee award. Then spring '08, I met Jaclyn. Her snubbing made me feel defective and I cut myself. I started testing limits at work to feel better and that habit stuck with me in all my subsequent jobs. That store closed that summer.
I test limits to see what I could get away with. Getting away with stuff that others wouldn't dare do feels like I got special previliges. Otherwise, I would feel defective which is all Jaclyn's fault. And Liz hurting me at McD's only added to it. I mostly screw around and be funny, workplace version of class clown. Now ppl are complaining, just like they always did about my antics at my previous jobs. How do I make Jaclyn, Liz, and those 4 current coworkers like me so I could behave myself?
@Angel23,
Quote:Is it devastating that not everyone will like you?
Popularity means
NOTHING to me; it never did,
except when working to a jury.
@Angel23,
Other people's lives do not revolve around you. You are not the center of their universe.
You are a person in need of mental health counselling. You are not a victim of others. You are a victim of the poor choices you make. You are a victim of not learning from the consequences of those choices and end up repeating them. You need a trained professional to help you look deep below the surface to get to where you may benefit from the work needed to do so.
I truly wish you well, and hope you are able to resolve these things with a professional.
@Angel23,
I agree completely with B. You need counceling.
There is no way we can be liked by everyone. That is something patological to pursue. The only thing we can try to achive as persons is to be aknowledge. Aknowledged as good persons,as good samaritans, as good coworkers, etc. Finally does persons who appretiate us are the ones that are really important.
The rest are people who will pass by in our life without anything to add. In a few years you won´t be even able to remember. So why to waste time in such trivialities.
Angel23 has been posting here for years. She has serious MH issues.
@luismtzzz,
I don't need everyoneto like me, just everyone whose opinion matters. The best time of my life since coming to this town is prolly my first year and a half at my current job. That time, every single person talked to me. One didn't but he was an old guy and his opinion didn't matter to me. Then enter Abby this time last year followed by 3 more ppl as time progressed. Things turned ugly.
Back at McD's, I was also a bitch to others in addition to all the screwing around I did. Mostly, I was jealous of Liz's friends. Also, I screw around when I feel accepted, which goes to my head. I get full of myself to compensate for me feeling defective. And it started with Jaclyn 6 years ago.
@Angel23,
You don't listen to anyone's advice here so why do you ask the same questions about the same issues over and over again. You just want desperately attention. But you don't appreciate or value it. Perhaps you're unable to focus or view the world through any one else's eyes. As has been mentioned many times before, you demonstrate cognitive issues.
You need to stay involved with a program of intensive mental heal treatments. People would probably help you more by stopping from replies to your posting of this tripe over and over again while you are not listening to soul. If you're getting any mental health counseling, I'm sure you're ignoring them, too.
@Angel23,
You not only are in denial but you contradict yourself repeatedly. The title you choose for this post is "Is it devastating that not everyone will like you?". then you write, ... I don't need everyone to like me." But you constantly seek out people's attention, pursue it like the holy grail and then are bitter and resentful when people start having to avoid you because you don't know how to process any social clues.
Your behavior pattern you've shown here is that you always blame others for your problems 'cause you don't take responsibility for your actions. You're not wired to accept it.
It's what might change if you keep going to mental health counseling.
Read the serenity prayer..
You're not gold coin...not everyone will like you...so what?? Plenty of people will..give it time.
@Angel23,
Quote:I don't need everyoneto like me, just everyone whose opinion matters.
That is exactly the problem. You don't need everyone to like you, yet you give equal value to everyone you come into contact with.
What is the difference between not needing everyone to like you, and not being able to let go of anyone who dislikes you?
Wow, everybody gave it a shot, I agree with everyone who provided advice. The OP needs Mental Health treatment ASAP.
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