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Am I being selfish to my boyfriend

 
 
jayla09
 
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Reply Mon 21 Apr, 2014 08:42 am
@izzythepush,
Precisely. I've been wondering about this too. I'm really caught in a dilemma.
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jayla09
 
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Reply Mon 21 Apr, 2014 08:43 am
@ehBeth,
I will have to pay a large sum of money which I can't afford haha. I really don't think he can wait for me. His dad has a fairly big business and business can't just stop for me. His dad is getting old and he really has to take over the business soon.
Germlat
 
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Reply Mon 21 Apr, 2014 02:56 pm
@jayla09,
Jayla..be honest with yourself. Can you put all of your needs on hold ? Should you? And what happens if you do get together...will you even know each other then? Are you so decided on the idea of loyalty before there is even a ring on your finger. Do you have any desires and wants. Do you want to sacrifice your youth to a phantom relationship? You could have more now!! Don't waste time.
jayla09
 
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Reply Wed 23 Apr, 2014 06:45 am
@Germlat,
Well... It's not really a phantom relationship. If he does work in China, wouldn't I be the selfish one if I left him when he is just trying to build our future? Sorry if it seems like I am dismissing everyone's suggestions. I just want to make sure I will eventually make the right decision whether I stay with him or not.
ehBeth
 
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Reply Wed 23 Apr, 2014 07:16 am
@jayla09,
Have you asked him what he is willing to do to make the relationship work? it really sounds as if all of this is up to you - esp when there is talk of children.

I personally don't think a long-distance dad is a good dad, esp when children are small. He needs to be living with his children for at least the first decade.
ehBeth
 
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Reply Wed 23 Apr, 2014 07:17 am
@jayla09,
I suggest you re-read your first post.
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jayla09
 
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Reply Thu 24 Apr, 2014 06:38 am
@ehBeth,
You are right. I am just in denial. I'm the only one working for our relationship. Thanks a lot. Sigh.
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ehBeth
 
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Reply Thu 24 Apr, 2014 06:37 pm
Germlat - is this for a different thread?
Germlat
 
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Reply Thu 24 Apr, 2014 06:41 pm
@ehBeth,
Realized on time and deleted it..giggled at myself though.
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