Should I love him?

It is not necessary to speak of "love." That would scare any woman away.

That is too much at this time. Just be friends.

Don't be afraid. Just get to know him and see where that goes. Don't let him rush you.

All he thinks about is kissing you? That sounds more like last to me, really , but who knows I might be wrong. However to be sure of his love for you , I would advice you set some boundaries in regards to amorous displays of affection and see if he will abide by it.dont let him steal your innocence but instead nurture it .

Is it an oxymoronic contradiction-in-terms to not know how u feel????
The essence of feeling something is KNOWING it.
For example, if someone does not know whether he or she feels pain,
then definitionally he does NOT feel pain,
because if he did, then he 'd know it.

WELCOME to the forum, Bea !




David

Give him a try, you might even enjoy it..

Thank you for your comment, and it's nice to be here

So you would say that if I was in love, I would know it? and because I am unsure of my feelings, they must not be there?

But what if this man has never felt pain before? Would he know for sure it was pain? Would his feeling of it be uncertain? Would he question it? How is he to know, maybe it is only discomfort, but because of his experiences through life he claims it as pain. Can we equate a feeling as knowledge? And how can we measure this knowledge with so many varying feelings and emotions?

In saying that I just don't know how I feel... I guess maybe I just don't understand my feelings.

Thank you again David

Logic has little to nothing to do with love, so the question is ridiculous. If you were to ask "Should I make love to him?" then there might be an answer.

Ask him to wear a George Clooney mask and see how you feel then

So you have never loved someone you know you shouldn't then?

yes

Its even BETTER to have u here.



Yes; DEFINITIONALLY !
Try it this way: u cross paths with a stranger.
U have no reason to love him, not even to LIKE him, in particular.
Having no feelings for him, by definition u do not love him. EZ.
On the other hand, suppose that u meet your favorite parent
or your best friend, or your dog and u r HAPPY and wish him or her JOY.
U feel the love, as distinct from the aforesaid un-impressive stranger.
See the difference ?

It seems to me that love cannot exist
in the absence of conscious KNOWLEDGE of that love.




Yes; for ease of understanding,
substitute the feeling of anger for the feeling of love.


Suppose that someone did something bad to u
(e.g., he threw a rock thru your window and its getting cold in there).
U r hopping mad about it!!! Contrast that with your state-of-mind
before he threw the rock. U cant feel anger without knowing about it.
If I ask u if u have a toothache, but u dont feel pain in your mouth,
then it is ez to deny feeling that pain.

If I ask u if u love the Securities and Exchange Commission,
chances are that u have no feelings toward it;
therefore, its ez to deny loving the S.E.C. On the other hand,
if I ask u whether u love America on the 4th of July while
we are shooting up the rockets then maybe u FEEL the love. Yes ?

If u dont feel the feeling, its because it does not exist.

Maybe try it this way:
u twist and sprain an ankle; the other ankle is un-harmed.
In ONE ankle: u FEEL pain. In the other ankle, u dont feel pain.




Yes.
No.
Suppose that your dog gives birth. Her puppies play;
one bites another in a sensitive place.
Even if the new-born victim has not been bitten b4,
it does not take him or her long to figure out
that he or she is in pain from the bite
and announce that fact to the world in a yelp or scream.




Between and among curses and obscenities
he might express some curiosity about the matter, yes.




Pain IS discomfort.



Yes,
but not necessarily as complete knowledge.
If u feel a pain in your gut u cannot necessarily diagnose
its source, with precision.




Well, lemme see.
Maybe u might start by choosing a prime criterion
against which to COMPARE or CONTRAST those feelings;
e.g., think of how much u love your favorite person
and contrast everyone else against that criterion.

Or u might decide this guy is only half as bad as Stalin;
I only despise him half as much.




U have a long time to figure it out.

Don t make any un-wise commitments in the meantime.
Note that I usually recommend against trusting people; its too risky.
Trusting shud be kept to a minimum.





David