@PUNKEY,
Quote:What's good for the gander is good for the goose, (or something like that.)
Your double standard is silly and unenforceable.
I rather disagree with this for a very basic reason - emotions are always more meaningful than logic.
To my way of thinking, this is true even when the emotions are misguided or hypocritical. I haven't yet seen a person change their emotions by denying them, nor have I seen a person have a healthy sense of self by denying their emotions.
That is to say - I think people should respect their own emotions, even when others think their emotions are silly, or even if they think they're own emotions are silly - respect them anyway.
From that base, they can then look at how they want to grow, and move towards that.
Ways of modifying your emotions include :
In relation to fears:
- Identifying your fears (your body and mind always give clues to your fears, and your behaviour will modify when a fear is triggered)
- understanding your fears (introspection or counsellors or psychologists are good for both the above, and this)
- accepting your fears (it's alright to have fears. They at some stage served a purpose.)
- identifying the fears that no longer serve a purpose, and working through them (possible through negotiation with self, self explanation, or through counsellors / psychologists)
The same can be used for your hopes (which serve a very positive purpose, but can be related to fears when those hopes are threatened) - though in the case you mentioned, fears are what you want to deal with.
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