Porn Addiction?

Let me try the obvious. Have you asked him?

He had his hands around your neck during some very rough sex and all you can think about is whether or not he's a porn addict?!?

What is wrong with this picture?

I suggest you get some KY Jelly, which will probably eliminate the pain.

Regarding; the choking, that is probably an erotic thing found in porn. I gather he is putting you second to his porn addiction.

I agree with Butrflynet - this guy was not making love to you at all.

There's something going on in his head and don't stick around to find out what is it. Next time he could squeeze his hands around your neck.

There comes a point where nothing can live up to the dream. Do you want second or third place to a fantasy? Then, if he is subject to anger . . . . .

It's a shame he took that direction, as it could have been the case that he regularly turned up to repair her Copier/Washing Machine/TV.

Kandy, I went through a stage in my life when I was addicted to porn. A time when I was lonely and frustrated by my inability to form a healthy relationship with a woman.
I think your friend is right. Your ex is manifesting signs of porn addiction.
He's acting out his favorite scenes and this does not bode well for you.

He's changed, and it's best you take sex out of the relationship equation.
Be a nurturing friend and look forward to meeting someone that is worthy of your love and attention.

Considering todays statistics of porn regular usage and also addiction... more than likely true, yes. Just statistically, the friend you talked to about it has probably been into porn as well, no telling how deeply. But the fact that you're with your boyfriend, and you're attracted to him... it means there's something within yourself; a psychological issue, probably related to miscommunication or being afriad to speak up, and also with connecting on a non superficial emotional level... which makes you attracted to him. You both need to reconnect on a deeper emotional level and talk about these things. You need to talk about how you feel hurt and degraded to him more directly. He needs to be more open and honest with you about his guilty feelings. You both need to try to be more emotionally... legitimate and connected, on a daily level. Make sure you do this in a mature, understanding way. Try to have insight. Don't demonize him or you aren't gona get anywhere. Together you can both learn from eachother.

I don't think impulsively leaving or withdrawing sex is a great solution .. it's an avoidant tactic, but you will be running from yourself just as much.