I once knew an agoraphobic lady, afraid to leave her house.
"Everybody's telling me I should make an effort to go out" she said unhappily.
So I told her "Well just stay in then, you don't have to go out if you don't want to"
She was speechless for a few seconds and looked at me in wide-eyed amazement, then said with a big smile- "Ooh thanks, nobody's ever said that to me before"
The moral? no matter what sort of problems people have got, they usually feel worse because others pressure them, so my "no pressure" approach is best..
In fact I do pretty well at it as some of my feedback shows-
MonkGirl - "Wow, thank you Mick! That is really comforting...and all I really needed to hear!"
Kermmiekr - "How uplifting Mick, and so very true"
Chrysalis55- "Just want to say, I love your posts and your messages not only inspire me, sometimes they make me laugh"
Evenflow- I just LOVE this post You have made me smile BIG TIME this morning. Good for you and what a great attitude you have to life xx"
PS- as i've mentioned before, i was once sent to a psychiatrist and he found me sane, his report read- "He is a strong-willed individual and his behaviour was appropriate throughout the interview"
That strength rubs off on others and makes them feel good-
"As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another" (Proverbs 27:17)
Romeo Fabulini: Iron Man