I do not know what to do

I am 30 years old male from India. When i was 27 years old. I was engaged to a girl. We were different in nature. I tried to make my relation healthy but girl was greedy and had nature of fight opposite to me as i am very lively and dynamic, believes in happiness and joys in life and very friendly. I decided to break the relation. At that time my family situation was good. After 3 years of this, i again engaged to another girl. This relation lasted for 9 months but she came to my past relation before 1 month of marriage. Now my family situation is not good. Everyone is is in trouble in his/her relation ans we have defame in my area. No body is ready to give his/her to our family. Second girl who i got engaged came to contact with me and she realized she did a mistake and loves me lot. But her family is strongly opposing relation with me. I can not marry with her and marriage with other girl(arrange) is not possible. I do not know what should i do now. I am well settled engineer.