How to break the ice... ?

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I asked before but I decided to take time away and keep moving.

I got a distinct feeling this girl I liked was avoiding me. Either she's a bit superficial because of my disability (not who I thought she was) or my general lack of confidence put her off. I was that way because I worry what people think of me.

A fire was lit under my a$$ and I'm a totally different person today. Getting exercise has been a monumental feat. Before I couldn't walk 100 yards without fear of falling over, not I can do a couple miles for the heck of it. I'm doing activities I only dreamed of before. It's the greatest feeling of accomplishment. It only helps my confidence, feeling capable, doing anything I set me mind to.

A few times over the last couple weeks while driving off campus, I've spotted her alone, seemingly on her coffee break. I wonder how she's been.

I resolved myself to sending her an email. We communicated via social networking in the past which I stopped using last summer. I'll keep it short. A friendly bridge of sorts.

What's a good simple question to break the ice? I'd rather propose coffee if she get's back to me.

I think I know what PUNKEY will say.

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@whbrill,

Hi!

It's been a while. I was wondering if we could get coffee and catch up a bit.

Write that. ^

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@jespah,

I keep putting it off. Okay... So skipping the banter is the better approach?

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@whbrill,

Save the banter for when you see her. Otherwise, you'll just sip your coffee and stare at her.

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Sixteen pound sledge . . . if that don't break the ice, nothin' will.

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@Setanta,

Setanta wrote:

Sixteen pound sledge . . . if that don't break the ice, nothin' will.

I'd try a stick or two of dynamite. Surprised

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They won't let me have any matches . . .

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@Setanta,

Setanta wrote:

They won't let me have any matches . . .

Peter Gabriel.....

It's nice here with a view of the trees
Eating with a spoon.
They don't give you knives.
'Spect you watch those trees
Blowing in the breeze
We want to see you lead a normal life

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@whbrill,

I don't think I understand what it is you're wanting us to understand.

That or I could if I wanted but I can't due to lack of sleep.

Maybe I'll re read this later.

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@whbrill,

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@whbrill,

- Be aware of the various situations you would want to break the ice in (and they are myriad).
- Consider the situation you are in. Are you a completely new person to the crowd/person? Does anyone know you?
- Introduce yourself, or allow someone to introduce you to the group. No matter what, you will need to do that. Otherwise, you are just this weird stranger that has walked up and interrupted their conversation.
- At this point, you can refrain from saying anything else, or ask what was the conversation at the moment. If you don't say anything, what you are doing then, is listening to what is being said in the group.
- If talking to one person, the dynamics will change a bit. If after introducing yourself, you stand there and say nothing, you make your partner very nervous.
- Start it with something as traditional and cliche as complimenting the person or commenting on the weather. Something that could be considered non threatening.
- Try to be friendly!! Take risks. Don't anticipate rejection. Talk to your family to practice.

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