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Tue 21 Jan, 2014 03:06 am
Please, I need help with this. In the beginning of my relationship I made the treacherous mistake of telling my boyfriend about me giving oral to another guy, as I took it not very seriously and told him lots of details, it really got to him.
It's been four months now and he still thinks about it. It gets to him and the cycle will never stop. He tried to do research and such but it just hasn't helped. Today he told me there's a chance it could go away with no other choice, but to break up with me. it is an almost OCD sort of problem. I would say it might be retroactive jealousy, though he doesn't feel jealous. The thoughts can't go away, and like I said, he has tried. Now he's just starting to think he'll stop thinking these things by leaving me, which he has said over and over he knows he will just want to be back with me so I don't really know.
We love each other. We do. I've lost my virginity to him and he has literally changed my world for the better. He feels the same, and he also lost his virginity to me. His sexual experience with other girls has happened, but not in recent years and he has not experienced oral until he was with me.
I don't want this to end on a note like this. We both still have strong, strong feelings for each other and we will only break up so he may have a chance to remove those thoughts in his head. But it'll really wreck me. I probably sound all emotional, but I love this guy. I want him to get better, but does it really have to end in order for him to stop the thought process? He seems he can't take it no more. I'm not giving up. I'm going to give him the best of my advice from you guys and deeper research. I just hope he makes the effort and not be impatient.
Don't break up.You must believe loveship.
@squidneeeyz,
Well, look this up: people who share details of sexual exploits with their current partner are passive aggressive.
People who are obsessed with the past sexual relationships of their current partner are cuckholds.
“The amount of happiness that you have depends on the amount of freedom you have in your heart.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh
@squidneeeyz,
Get rid of him, he will make you feel guilty the rest of your life.
I agree with glitterbag! How can anyone be jealous of something that happened before you even knew that person. That's ridiculous and if your
boyfriend can't get past this nonsense, then he has to leave.
@CalamityJane,
Jealous and controlling behaviour is something you must nip in the bud. My great grandmother died in childbirth delivering a child that didn't live more than a few hours. My great grandfather sent my grandmother off to her grandparents. He remarried and my grandmother's step-mother treated her so badly that my great great grandparents took her away to live with them.
My great grandmothers name was Margaret, and she died several years before my great grandfather remarried. We only have a few pictures of her. The second wife was so jealous of my great grandmother, she slashed most of her images out of photographs that she and great-grandfather appeared in.
If you can hate or be jealous of a dead woman there is something terribly wrong.
That's the long way of saying, dump your boyfriend. He's bad news.
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