what should i do about my boyfriend cheating on me?

Oh dear, Monica. See this for what it is. Your boyfriend does not respect your feelings or the relationship. That is not love.

Give him an ultimatum. Get off the computer and spend more time with you, at the gym, school, job, hobby or developing his poor social skills.

Now he wants me to watch porno with him. I did it once with him but i just felt like sh1t he was watchin that more than he was watching me. Im a very attractive women idk why he like that more?

Same advice I gave to your other post where you also revealed that he made you quit your job. You have to leave him - it's not even a close call. This man does not deserve your love. And he is not showing that he loves you - whatever you want to believe.
If your self-esteem is so low that you are considering staying with this man who is cheating, disrespectful and controlling you seriously need to get some counselling. If you need help to leave contact a woman's shelter.

Ive tryed leaving. My dad even drove 45mins away jus to get me but that same night i came back. I wanna fix our problems. Hes the one i love and wanna be with deep down i do fill that all this can change. He has showed me he loves me he has done things for me that he wouldnt do for some he dont love. Hes has put me through alot but also has showed me the best. Its so hard!

Now that I've seen this post added to the one I just answered, I will revise my advice.
Leave and get counseling.
You are worth more and need to learn that about yourself.

Thanks but i guess i havnt learned yet. Im still going to try atleast so i can atleast say ive try my best. Cant give up now. Thats all ive been doing in my relationships and it has got me nowhere.

Is this a pattern of yours? (overbearing boyfriends who put demands on you)

May I ask your age?

I know you would not want to bring a child into this rocky relationship.

Im 20 and i feel a baby would change everything between us.

NOOOOOOOO! Can you hear what you're saying? He's obviously not capable of fixing himself...you're not capable of fixing him....why should it be the responsibility of an innocent newborn to try. You think a child deserves to be thrown into the middle of your dysfunctional relationship? You think that will make for a happy childhood...in the real world - not your fantasy world? What you're going to end up with is the same controlling, disrespectful cheating partner - plus a baby to care for. Nothing will change for the better - not long term. And once you have a baby even if you come to your senses and leave him you're going to be tied to him forever. You can choose to continue with this but it's not fair to put a child in the middle of it - he or she will never thank you for it.
Jeez...you're like a textbook case of what NOT to do in this kind of situation.

Just be glad he's not gay..

Sure, go ahead, have a baby! And then when your relationship ends, you can be hounding him for child support. Because, you know, he's been so reliable in so many other areas.

Well there is two issues here the dating sites and the porn sites.

If all women would leave all men who will watch porn the human race would be ended in short order.

Watching porn is not cheating or even thinking of cheating and females who can not understand that are looking for a life of broken relationships over a non-issue as far as cheating is concern.

Now the signing up on cheating websites is another matter and at the least means that he is thinking of cheating on you and if you are giving him hell over him watching porn I can see why he might be thinking of leaving you.

You must be jus as nasty as he is.... ha
But i do alot for him i know he doesnt wanna leave me. I honestly do thinkehe will cheat on me first before he ever leave me.

LOL well I do indeed enjoy watching porn every now and then and I do not cheat on my wife but then she is sane enough to know that porn is not a threat to her or my feelings toward her.

oh yeah

things will change and it won't be in a good way

For me it is now hard to read how people just dive into oblivion on purpose as some guy or woman seemed to like them at one point. This may be true for some men too.

I made my own messes, so I don't want to sound arrogant.

A lot of this has to do with the girls/women being not strong on sense of self, the self esteem thing. (Not so much for me, I was more self expectant.)


To our poster, Monica - I would like you to move out of this morass, and not to suck a baby into it. Wait. When you find someone who actually loves you, go ahead.
A baby is not a doll.

I don't know what to say to yank a girl/woman out of herself to just look around.

my bet is that you are clingy and boring.

What does he say?

Jesus Christ woman, find out what he wants and then decide if you are willing to do it. Figure out what you want and then get some sense of whether he is willing/able to do it.

This is not rocket science!