Distance relationship and chating up others

It's not up to you. She alone has to prove her trustworthiness.
FYI - http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Catfishing

But, this means you are accessing her accounts, snooping, checking up on her.

You can not control someone. This suggests that "if she lied to you" that you don't allow her to be free, to go out with friends. It's simple, regardless that you are in a distant relationship, you don't own this girl or any girl for that matter. If love is there, the other doesn't stray..

You can't stop what will be.

In my opinion, she's ready to move on but you keep stopping her, perhaps making her feel guilty.

If she has been trying "intensely' for two months what is that telling you?

She just wants to be herself and she deserves to have someone who loves her for her and trusts her. You don't. And, you fight and check and snoop but you wish to know how to restore "your" trust in her?

23 and 31 - that's a HUGE age difference.

Why would you want to hold down a young woman with a long distance relationship?

Let this girl go.

I never understand why people think they own others' life experiences. I'm not your most traditional thinking person on a2k, but even back when I was marching in step with lots of rules, I didn't take it that I ruled another person.

I do remember thinking I would have to obey my future husband (that was in the early sixties, before I grew a brain and still was religion hampered, though those aren't mutually exclusive, just that my religion at the time certainly was hampering), and that would make deciding to marry hard -
but a smart boyfriend pointed out my error. I was lucky; my first boyfriends were all a mix of brainy and wise, as much as one can be that young.

If you make vows to each other, marital or just talking sincerely, that's another dimension, but even in marriage with children, you don't own the other person.

Dating is a learning time - what kind of person do you want to make a life with - if you even want to make a life with one other person. I'm of the opinion that Lust conquers Sense many times over, in the Guise of Love, Sealed with Bills forever.

Texting?? Give me a break.



edit to add - leave the woman alone

Nah to the age difference. It can work.
I agree on letting the woman alone.

Let the poor woman go and grow up without you lurking over her online shoulder.

She should be having fun with friends. That's what young people are supposed to do.

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You want to restore your trust in her? why should she trust you when you seem to be monitoring her online behaviour?

I always find that type of comment (in it's totality) and/or usage of word, as an insult to the other person, don't you and everyone else?

My darling girl, she is so busy, works hard, she forgets to sign off.

Sounds better.

calm down and have a talk with each other. If she is really having affair with other men, then maybe you need stop and find someone more suitable you.