@farmerman,
Frankly, I don't know why people get so hardened on a position because they fear even a question equates to heresy. Years ago a close family member of my husband, was always suspicious of the fact that I was raised Catholic. This was someone born in 1911, raised on a farm way out in Johnston's County, N.C., and had never met anyone other than a Baptist. I've forgotten how the conversation began, we were all around the dining room table, and finally after a lot of fidgeting she asked me about the Church. Her question was, "Now, are the Catholics like the Jews, and don't accept Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior?" I wasn't offended, just shocked how misinformed some folks are, and just said, "Oh no it's different, in fact, we think we thought of it first". Then I had to assure her that the Church believed in the Trinity, I still don't know if she believed me.
I'm not going to say I'm a practicing Catholic, I'm not crazy about the modifications that have been made to the Mass. But, even if it returned to the way it was when I was young, I'm not sure I would return. But to be very honest, it wasn't strictly the changes, I had started working and was working 6 days a week at the Social Security Agency, I didn't want to get up on Sunday anymore and just slept. I was at SSA for three months before my clearances came in and I resigned and began working at DOD.
That being said, I respect the beliefs of other and I feel absolutely no need to convert anyone. And I don't fret about the afterlife, it either is or it's not. The Egyptians buried a ton of stuff to accompany them to the other side, that didn't work out very well.