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Help Me Please If You Can....*CAUTION* (explicit material)

 
 
mlpmlp
 
Reply Sun 15 Dec, 2013 01:18 pm
THIS IS LONG, BUT IF YOU CAN PLEASE HELP ME. THANKS.I am 17 in two weeks. I lost my virginity at 13 with a 14 year old boy. His penis was rather large for a kid. So that week we had sex 3 days. The first time hurt, second time felt good, and the third was ok. Two years past and I was 15. Me and this 17 year old had sex, and it didn't feel good. We had sex a couple times and it didn't feel good. So the last time I had sex was later that year in September. It was with another 17 year old, had sex twice, didn't feel good. So now I'm 16 about to be 17 on dec. 25. And haven't had sex since then. Every since I started my period, which was around 10, I touched myself and rubbed my clotoris and things like that. I used to finger myself but I stopped because it no longer felt nice and I looked at my vagina and saw a tear a couple centimeters in and it scared me.I like using vibrators or a shower head to get that sensual feeling in my clit to climax. Now that feels great! But why does that feel great and not sex? I have a dildo/vibrator and tried to stick it in me (I've been only using the vibrator part lately) and it hurt bad. Why does it hurt now? Any advice? Why does using a vibrator feel great and not a penis in a vagina? Will it stay that way forever???
 
jespah
 
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Reply Sun 15 Dec, 2013 01:37 pm
@mlpmlp,
First off, I hope you got medical treatment for the tear. It's not like other wounds, as it is difficult to keep the area clean and you can't exactly put a bandage on there. It is possible that you have scar tissue, so ask your doctor. And believe me, doctors have seen and heard EVERYTHING. Your doctor will not be shocked, and s/he is obligated to maintain physician/patient confidentiality, even for minors.

So go - even if you have to tell a fib and tell your folks that you're getting headaches. You should go.

Now, for the rest of it.

Some people are better at sex than others. Skill levels vary, as do proportions, etc. Foreplay is often key. Fellows who don't spend a lot of time on it may not be stimulating you enough with just intercourse. A dirty little secret out there is that a LOT of women don't orgasm with just intercourse. You may be one of them. And there is not a thing wrong with this. It's reality, and it's common.

So, what to do?

Have sex with guys who care enough about your orgasm to be a part of it. And who have healthy enough egos that it matters less to them if you orgasm from intercourse or oral or digital stimulation or porn or even, hell, dancing the polka, than that you have one.

You'll be fine. But you should see your doctor, and not just about the tear. You should also see him/her about birth control.
Ragman
 
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Reply Sun 15 Dec, 2013 01:42 pm
@mlpmlp,
Is there a reason you posted this same exact scenario twice in the last 24 hrs with 2 different nicknames?
PUNKEY
 
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Reply Sun 15 Dec, 2013 02:25 pm
Jespah gave an excellent answer. I'll just add to it:

Your chronic "tear" may be irritation from intercourse because you were not properly lubricated. Does it "heal" when you don't have intercourse for a time?

You can buy lubricates and/or vagina moisturizers over the counter at most large stores.

As Jespah said, many (and i'd say most) women don't orgasm by intercourse. It just does not hit the "right" spots. So be sure your partner gets you properly ready before you get into that position.

Good luck - and aren't you fortunate that you can get your questions answered here?
mlpmlp
 
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Reply Mon 16 Dec, 2013 04:55 pm
@Ragman,
For some reason, they said I was spamming and locked the account until May.
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mlpmlp
 
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Reply Mon 16 Dec, 2013 04:56 pm
@jespah,
THANKS, but I do not think I can go to the doctors without my mom knowing. I do not want her to know.
mlpmlp
 
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Reply Mon 16 Dec, 2013 04:57 pm
@PUNKEY,
yes, very fortunate.
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jespah
 
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Reply Mon 16 Dec, 2013 05:09 pm
@mlpmlp,
I understand, but you can probably say it's something else. And, of course you know that if you end up pregnant from one of your sexual escapades, that'll be considerably more difficult to conceal.

If you don't want to go to your regular doctor, then I urge you to head to Planned Parenthood.
mlpmlp
 
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Reply Mon 16 Dec, 2013 06:41 pm
@jespah,
I'm not sexually active with anyone and haven't been in over a year, and i don't plan on having sex no time soon, I just really want to get my vagina checked out thoroughly. This isn't as easy as you make it sound though, my mom is strict, and nosy. She wants to know where, why, when, who, and how EVERYTHING concerning me, I just wish i had like an older sibling that could probably take me, sadly I'm an only child.
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Bwana
 
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Reply Wed 8 Jan, 2014 07:57 am
@mlpmlp,
See a doctor!! If no help, a Sex Therapist is your next alternative. People on this forum cannot help you. You need more than just advise from strangers.
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