Help Me Please If You Can....*CAUTION* (explicit material)

First off, I hope you got medical treatment for the tear. It's not like other wounds, as it is difficult to keep the area clean and you can't exactly put a bandage on there. It is possible that you have scar tissue, so ask your doctor. And believe me, doctors have seen and heard EVERYTHING. Your doctor will not be shocked, and s/he is obligated to maintain physician/patient confidentiality, even for minors.

So go - even if you have to tell a fib and tell your folks that you're getting headaches. You should go.

Now, for the rest of it.

Some people are better at sex than others. Skill levels vary, as do proportions, etc. Foreplay is often key. Fellows who don't spend a lot of time on it may not be stimulating you enough with just intercourse. A dirty little secret out there is that a LOT of women don't orgasm with just intercourse. You may be one of them. And there is not a thing wrong with this. It's reality, and it's common.

So, what to do?

Have sex with guys who care enough about your orgasm to be a part of it. And who have healthy enough egos that it matters less to them if you orgasm from intercourse or oral or digital stimulation or porn or even, hell, dancing the polka, than that you have one.

You'll be fine. But you should see your doctor, and not just about the tear. You should also see him/her about birth control.

Is there a reason you posted this same exact scenario twice in the last 24 hrs with 2 different nicknames?

Jespah gave an excellent answer. I'll just add to it:

Your chronic "tear" may be irritation from intercourse because you were not properly lubricated. Does it "heal" when you don't have intercourse for a time?

You can buy lubricates and/or vagina moisturizers over the counter at most large stores.

As Jespah said, many (and i'd say most) women don't orgasm by intercourse. It just does not hit the "right" spots. So be sure your partner gets you properly ready before you get into that position.

Good luck - and aren't you fortunate that you can get your questions answered here?

For some reason, they said I was spamming and locked the account until May.

THANKS, but I do not think I can go to the doctors without my mom knowing. I do not want her to know.

yes, very fortunate.

I understand, but you can probably say it's something else. And, of course you know that if you end up pregnant from one of your sexual escapades, that'll be considerably more difficult to conceal.

If you don't want to go to your regular doctor, then I urge you to head to Planned Parenthood.

I'm not sexually active with anyone and haven't been in over a year, and i don't plan on having sex no time soon, I just really want to get my vagina checked out thoroughly. This isn't as easy as you make it sound though, my mom is strict, and nosy. She wants to know where, why, when, who, and how EVERYTHING concerning me, I just wish i had like an older sibling that could probably take me, sadly I'm an only child.

See a doctor!! If no help, a Sex Therapist is your next alternative. People on this forum cannot help you. You need more than just advise from strangers.