Why would someone cheat 1 month before wedding?

Haven't you heard the term "sowing your wild oats"? It's not a justification for the husband's actions but it is a well tread excuse.

I don't expect the marriage will last very long and if it does, it most likely be a very rocky and shaky one at that.


How thoughtful and generous of that woman.

Not very believable but even if it's a true statement, it's not very much of a valid excuse or an apology.

Sounds like your friend knows how much she can deal with and changing the past is not one thing she'd like to focus on right now.

Apparently she has bigger fish to fry.

But I certainly hope he behaves like a devoted, loyal married man now.

Well you can't change the past anyway. There is no rush as of now but if she will separate from this individual I'd rather see it be annulment vs divorce..see what I mean?

She is a friend.. But "you" would rather see an annulment as apposed to Divorce, is this because of culture? Are you concerned for her future, as a divorcee should that happen?

I don't believe she will do that in any event for some time. But, I don't believe either that they will be happy together. It will play on her mind. Be a friend and help her let it go to move on, into this marriage and try to make it work, not hold onto the "past" as you make mention...

It's good to be a friend. But, the best way is to be there when they need you not pre-empt the future or interfere with the present.

I agree with your answer. I keep my opinions to myself..although it's not easy.

It is never easy but a wise thing to do...

So true.