Should I tell my friend about his girlfriend and my brother??

I would say that they have to tell him. Give them a week to be honest or you'll let him know. They have no place involving you in their deception, and your friend needs to know before he gets married. You're brother will always be your brother, but your best friend could well see you as conspiring against him. This will come out at some point, it always does.

When you're on the stagnight, half cut, will you be able to keep your mouth shut, or will something slip out?

I agree. Give HER a week to tell her husband-to-be that she has not been faithful all this time and can't go thru with the wedding. (No names need be given)

SHE is the one who needs to come clean to your best friend. Either she breaks the wedding off or you tell him that she is not a faithful person. SHE can explain that remark to him. (again, no names need to be given)

Then . . . tell your brother he's a jerk for doing an engaged woman. I have a feeling that in a week, she will be his ALL the time. See how he likes that!

Yeah I'm just thinking about how to break it to him..they dont look like they are going to have the galls to say anything...

Give them an ultimatum, they have to have a chance to tell him themselves.

IF they don't say anything, then you say, "Fred, I am really concerned about you and Mary. She is not ready for marriage. I don't think she can be faithful and she is doing things that prove that. Please ask her about it."

If he bugs you, INSIST you can't say more and that he needs to talk to her. Stay out of it. This is going to be a blow-up and he will need you there afterwards.

But you MUST say something. You will never forgive yourself if you don't make her accountable.

I ended up meeting up with my friend and got all of us together (my brother and the girlfriend). I simply turned to her and said "Ok this is your last chance tell him or I will" He didn't want to believe it at first. But when she admitted to it he took a while to respond. The girlfriend tried to say she was sorry and then my brother tried to say something to him but got beaten up..real bad I had to pull my friend off of him and almost got hit myself his girlfriend tried to blame me for everything and hates me now .... He is calling off the wedding and has informed his family about what has happened (this is gonna be an ugly month) it looks like my brother is going to need dental implants OUCH but oh well that's his problem, he and the girlfriend are not speaking to me either. The girlfriend called the police and my brother is going to charge him with assault and my friend got taken downtown SMH But my friend is sticking by me even closer than before:-) My parents and I don't think that my brother has any right to charge my friend with assault. Thank you everyone for the wonderful advice..I love this forum truly mature answers from everyone:-) Sorry for the late update..just been som real crap going on.

Many people don't bother updating. Have as Merry Christmas as you can all things considered.

I can only tell you what I would do, I would tell my brother to make it right within 24 hours or I will. Eight months is not a mistake or a lapse of judgement, it is vile because of the deception.

Good for you.
May those that love us, love us, and if they don't love us may God turn their hearts, and if he cannot turn their hearts may he turn their ankles so that we know them by their limp.

That was a hard decision to make, but I think the right one. They had their chance to come clean but chose not to.

Your friend deserved not to marry a woman whom's body belonged to someone else, I can't imagine that affair would have stopped, had he not have found out, to then be found out once he was married, that would have been 10 times worse.

You're a good friend.. Your brother will get over it, you have your parents support in this as well.

My thoughts exactly bro..and thanks

Ha! Have to.... 80raised, must sound strange for a woman to write that huh? Yep FS is a woman

Haha nice..and you have a merry christmas and new years!

Love it when people smile You have a Merry Xmas and New Year too