@brittlc,
Very sad situation Britt.
Quote:but a part of me doesnt want to leave him
Maybe you're shrouding this feeling in nobility or faithfulness but it's really your fear of being alone and unwanted.
Many times posters come here blaming their spouses, when the problem lies within themselves.
You'll never change him and his emotional problems but you can do something about your lack of self-esteem.
Leave him and his emotional abuse and start making yourself a whole person again.
Eventually no partner will be allowed to drag you down.