@PAWestie,
There are five important steps to consider before announcing your intention to divorce.
1 If it's applicable, seek marriage counseling and give it one last shot.
2. Learn about your state's divorce process.
3. Review your finances. Begin saving money and start to separate your finances.
4. Decide where and when you will tell your spouse. Does he have a history of violence? Consult a specialist or therapist to help you decide how to make your announcement.
5. Consult a veteran, qualified divorce attorney to help you through the legal process in your state.