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Sun 24 Nov, 2013 01:38 pm
So I was at the mall and I didn't expect this but I saw this kid that was a year older than me and he really likes me and has always said he wanted to kiss me. he didn't know I haven't had my first kiss and so he had kissed me but I hadn't really kissed him back cause I didn't know if I should or not. I try to tell my mom a lot of things that happens in my life because she's overprotective and gets mad when I don't. She doesn't even know that I talk to him so what should I tell her since he technically was my first kiss. Btw I'm 13 and in 8th grade and he's a freshman in the same town as me so the age difference isn't that bad. But now also on twitter I met this kid that is also a freshman but lives in a different town but in the same district as me so I applied to the high school that he goes to and still have to take a test to see if I get in. I'm thinking about not telling my mom about the thing that happened at the mall because she probably wont let me go to the mall alone with friends ever again. I will tell her about the new kid I met from the other town but he now wants to kiss me. He knows I haven't exactly and technically had my first kiss yet and when I told him what happened at the mall he got really pissed and overprotective of me. He said I was the best thing that has ever happened to him and he wouldn't let me go or let anything bad happen to me. He is honestly the sweetest thing ever. The only problem is I haven't met him in person. I snapchat him all the time and text him and I know a couple of his friends so I know for a fact he's real. I was going to go to the movies with friends and meet him there and he said he wants to hu with me but only if I want to. He doesn't want to force me to do anything I don't want to do which I think is so sweet. But I don't think I should hu or even kiss him. We could meet and then maybe next year go out and then kiss when I am finally in high school and have went to a couple parties and will actually have a good excuse for knowing him. He understands how my mom is and said it's fine but what should I tell my mom? I'm scared she will ground me forever and make me delete all my accounts as in instagram and twitter and snapchat and all of those. I really want to kiss him but I'm afraid of what my parents will do. My close guy friend that ive known forever said he wants to kiss me and I told my mom about that and she seemed fine but I think its because she actually knows the kid.......I am just so confused and scared
Please comment and answer anything I need advice
Quote:Marbear said: I really want to kiss him but I'm afraid of what my parents will do
Relax! If they hassle you, you can make them back down by saying- "Huh, i thought you'd be pleased that i'm not a lesbian and that i'll be able to give you grandchildren when i grow up and get married!
I can try being a lesbian and only kiss girls if you like!"
I'm trying to understand your history here. It's three guys, yes?
1) The guy at the mall. Totally unexpected, you didn't kiss him back and, so far as I can tell, you don't even like him much. I think you can tell your mother this, so long as you make it clear what I just said, it wasn't planned, you weren't and aren't interested, etc. It's something that happened, and it's not too radically different from if he'd bought you a soda that you didn't want.
I also think your mother will get a lot angrier if she expects you to share, and you don't.
2) The guy on snapchat. I think the idea of waiting a while is a valid one. You don't have a lot of control over your life right now. You can't drive, you don't have friends who do, you can't go too many places on your own, etc. There's a lot of talk of being overprotective and kissing and hugging. But you may find that time passes and you're no longer interested, or he isn't interested, etc. This is normal and it's fine. Teenaged hearts are often what we call fickle. Don't sweat it, but do delay.
I'd also advise not making scholastic decisions based on boys. Make your school decisions based on your academics, and on where you'd be most comfortable and can get the best education. Boys may come and go, but you'll have your diploma a lot longer than that.
3) The friend. Man oh man there's a lot of fellows who want to kiss you. That's sweet, and it can be very ego-gratifying. Understand that life isn't always like that. Understand, also, that sometimes people say they want to kiss but what they really want is to do more than that.
So keep a cool head about you, and consider these things. And also - if you want to remain friends with this one, you might want to hold off on kissing if you ever kiss at all. Sometimes you can really mess up a friendship that way, and it's really hard to retreat from that.
@Romeo Fabulini,
I suspect the OP is likely a person of the dude-ular persuasion hence the hesitation to tell his mother the shocking news.
The first girl I kissed didn't tell her mum for ages, and even then it was only because I'd untied her.
@marbear627,
I can't understand your question.
But anyone you kiss you should do it in person.
Kissings not all it's cracked up to be anyway; my first kiss on the lips was with Vivien next door when we were both about ten and tasted like the cheese and onion crisps she'd been eating, yuk!
And some girls don't like kissing anyway, for example when I used to snog June she'd wipe her mouth with the back of her hand every time we came up for air as if I was the swamp monster from the x-files
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