@maxdancona,
Yes youre right it is perfectly normal to express my opinion to him, the time with this friend does concern me, as he pointedly told me his friend is looking for "a slut to ****" . he would like to have some notches on the proverbial belt. Not coming from me.
Clearly you only see this as the friends doing. But I believe whom you surround yourself with you will pick up a few bad habits one of which being at a bar to look for "a slut to ****". You act as if he will be a cup or an invalid object whilst his friend is out at the bar. Clearly not or else his friend would not need him.
He would inevitably have to be with these type of people whether on a consistent basis or not, to appease his friend. If i saw my friend guy or girl doing something that isnt exactly productive to themself there is no wrong to clearly point that out. That isnt right of the friend to try and involve him like that. My girlfriends wouldnt try to involve me like that anymore because they know he wouldnt like it. You act like it is wrong to "control" a person and give the term such a bad rap. Let me get this straight one should be in a relationship where they are free willy?
I believe I do have the right to control what my boyfriend does with his friend if it involves putting himself in a situation where his friends asks of his help when he knows he can ask one our of single other male friends. You at least have to understand that not all our bf male friends have good intentions. They want their buddy to be single or at least act like it so that THEY can have what THEY want. They are only looking at their best interest so why should I not?
But you are right, ultimately, it is his choice. But friends can be bad influences that I must point out. Ive had friends like this who wanted me to act single too, to show me some hot guys I could have fun with etc and put me in that position. One thing leads to another. I dont believe it putting oneself into a situation and then saying oh whoops i couldnt control myself.
Everyone does things to protect themself. Has nothing to do with me.
Youre right he has to not want to do it because HE himself doesnt want to put himself in that situation, no body else. However when you have friends pressuring you to go.. is that not just as wrong. clearly.