I have been with my boyfriend for about 3 years and we are both in our 20s. The relationship have been going find up until 2 weeks ago where my feelings for him started to change. I thought it was a phase and it will go away but it haven't. Lately I find him kind of irritating, like when he calls or texts or the way he talks, I would text/ answer back but i do so reluctantly. And I just don't feel like being intimate with him anymore either. But i don't know why I would be feeling this way because he is a great guy who is caring, understanding, attentive, and comforting. He is the only person that I can fully trust and be myself around. He cares about me a lot, and even though I'm having these feelings I care for him a lot still too. I don't want to loose him out of my life, yet I can't shake this feeling I'm having. What does this mean?
You may have lost interest. Communications are the way to go, of course. At least give this great guy a heads up that you're dissatisfied.
And, I might add, that's all right. And it's perfectly fine to go along and then, one day, just be done with things. We don't marry everyone we date (thank God), and there's a good reason for that. This is a time to explore who you are. You may be the person who ends up with him; you might not be. Both are worthwhile people.
Sometimes, relationships just plain run out of gas. There's no shame in this. If you must part, I hope you'll part as friends. I am friendly with exes, and recognize them as great men who I couldn't see myself staying with (and vice versa). That doesn't stop them from being great men, and I'm glad for what we had together.
I'm reminded of this old song.
Mon 4 Nov, 2013 08:03 am
If you are starting to be "irritated" with him and he doesn't turn you on, then those are danger signs. It really sounds like you are starting to outgrow him.
Are you in school? What's going on in your life? What work does he do.?