My husband is dishonest

Just need someone to talk too.

Why does random talking to people = cheating? I get the feeling you're leaving out a good 90% of this story.

If it bothers you so much, change your password and your permissions. Make it harder to get into your account. But don't be shocked if he does the same in return.

And also, seriously, chatting = cheating? That's a new one on me.

I call it cheating because of the nature of the convo, and because he hides it and lies about it. I think it's inappropriate, especially for a married man to do such things.

In Othello, Shakespeare does a classic study of a man obsessed by the suspicion that his wife had got a secret lover, so he strangles her but then finds out she wasn't cheating at all

So what r u saying, I should pretend hes not doing this, looking porn sites, lying to me.

Btw: thank you for responding, I feel like I need to do the same thing he's doing to get him to see that it is wrong. The only thing is if feel like if I did cheat it would be the end of us and I don't think I want that. I just can't deal withy e lying

He's not trying to hide the fact that he's talking to women is he?
I think that's a good sign because it means he's not trying to keep it secret behind your back, so it's all probably just harmless fun..

You certainly seem to have cause for some action to protect your own interest. But I believe acting to "get back at him" would be, at best, counterproductive. Talk with a trusted counselor. Few, if any, of us here can offer much more than that.

Be strong.

What was the reason that u married him ?

You two have a wonderful relationship. You claim he is cheating by chatting with others, so your wonderful solution is to cheat on him to get even. I'm surprised your marriage has lasted more than 1 month.

I guess that is counter-cheating.





David

Unless he is physically hooking up with these gals or sexting them, then he is just one of those guys who likes to talk by text. He may be an attention-seeker, too. Does he text his male buddies, too?


What SPECIFICALLY makes you think he is a "cheater" rather than just an attention seeker.

If he really is a liar and cheat, kick him out and get yourself a proper hub!
Alternatively, start chatting to men yourself to get your own back and see how he likes it..

I like your idea , I'm just not the type to cheat or put myself out there so it's hard

We have kids together, n not sure I want to completely end it.

Maybe he is an attention seeker, but it doesn't make it right. A marriage is respect of which he is not giving me

He might be doing it because it annoys you and he likes to chuckle when you get all upset..

Flirting comes naturally for those that have it within them, but there are boundries as to how far you can go.. "Suggestive flirting" is not cheating, it's being dis-respectful to your partner.

Does he dis-respect you in other ways? Put you down?

Do you give 100% to your marriage, or just live in the house, and be a housewife... It takes two to keep a marriage / relationship - sparked.

Porn is a different story. Here you probably feel that he is cheating as he is looking at another woman naked, to say the least and probably makes you feel less of a woman.. You either agree or disagree with this and if you disagree and he won't stop, then you have to make your own management choice.

Revenge is not ever the answer.

Tit for tat - either.

Sounds to me as if he has been doing all of this all of his life, you have seen it before and "tried" to get him to stop doing it, as you don't like it and now blowing up over it. So it's his nature, surely you saw those red flags when you met him, not established them later in life?