My wife left us and went overseas

Given your descriptions of the relationship in other threads, I suspect the problem was internal to the marriage. No third party needed.

Have you spent any time thinking about your lack of participation in the partnership?

Once again, you do keep asking the same damned question over and over again.

It's annoying, it's whiny and it's probably counterproductive.

I take it for granted most posters here including me have cultural differences going on re this poster - most of us have some all over the place; and he seems clueless entirely but wanting to know.
I'd rather keep talking, if we can.

All I can guess is that his wife felt a word I don't use often - occluded. And, on the other side, that he has been raised by precepts or opinions about women and their place, ideas some of the world has gotten over. Even some of the U.S.

The resentment from the under-persons can add up over time.
I am guessing he can't imagine what she feels.
And maybe, she, him, or likely she does.

Who is "us"?

Did she leave the children behind, with you?

I see this clash of values as a combination of a lack of understanding of progressive thought as well as a lack of English language skills. Perhaps even a non-understanding of blog-o-sphere culture in the west. It might be that egalitarianism is non-existent in his world.



Can it possibly be that you can't see the world through her eyes? Why must there be the possibility of another romantic 3rd party? Must it be about the possibility of her cheating? Perhaps she is just fed up with being married? That is not meant as criticism aimed at you. Perhaps it's just that maybe he realization is that she didn't bargain on her life being the way it turned out?

Can you see the world through her eyes?

I agree much.

could you share more detail?

You'll be ok, focus on the children.

She has a third party and she abandoned us because of him.I have evidence and I am very sad now.

That may, or may not, be someone who was helping her get away from you for (his) own reasons, including just helping.
We don't know enough to know what is going on.

I have photos.She left house and contacted that fellow.She is really a bitch.

So, he might have been helping her get away from you. I can understand that, but I am not from your culture - anyway, I understand her, but not you.

You said you understood her.What does this mean?I am so painful now.

She called that man 'husband'.

Yes,my child is with me.

We are culturally different but there are some continuums. People don't like to be slaves following a dominant person's expectations for their behaviour.

You may be right that she liked someone else, how would we know? I'm taking it you live in a society where marriage is set by others.

I love her so much.She could tell me.Why she betrayed our family.How can I trust her again?What should I do?

I'm not saying you're wrong, I've no idea, but you seemed to never have talked together well, and, I can't comment on that as I am from a very different culture.

Love her so much? Maybe as an object, but do you know her at all? On the other hand, does she know the real you?