I need some advice with a sexual question...

I take it that your final sentence was not intended to be a pun?

maybe he was studying...

Maybe he wanted to do some DIY on the path from the rear of the house to the garden, and typed "back passage entry" into google.

Hi Belle,
Maybe if you used a smaller strap-on he wouldn't mind so much.

What a **** eh?

Is this a relationship killer?, could it be the end Belle? .... the Belle-end so to speak.

Nope I just wanted to show my gratitude to anyone that would take the time to give me some advice for my problem.

Strap-on? What are you talking about?

Have you talked about it with him since he said he wasn't a fan? Why didn't he like it specifically? He could feel it's "wrong" for whatever reason.

Do you talk about other sexual things with him? Do you talk about your sexual likes and dislikes? Does he talk about his?

I don't think so when we tried anal we talked about it afterwards and he said it wasn't his thing and that was the end he hasn't initiated it since since then.Mean while I've still always wanted to do it again and that hasn't happened sadly.

No I havn't when we first talked about it he said it wasn't his thing and I let it end there because I didn't want to pressure him to do something he didn't like. That was about 6 months ago and in that time he has never tried to initiate doing that again and this is the first time I even knew there was any interest in that area again. The only reason I can think of that he'd want to watch it and not do it with me is because he's worried about the pain it could be causing me and when we tried before he was always very worried about that but, that wasn't an issue for me and I told him that but, I don't know maybe thats still on his mind. We are very open about our sexuality as a couple, so no problem there. I'm just not sure how to bring this up.

So you like something but don't want to pressure him into doing something you think he might not like. It seems he likes something but doesn't want to pressure you into doing something he thinks you might not like. That is a communication issue.

Clearly you have been thinking about anal sex. Why not tell him you would like to try it again some time? If you talk about sex, then it's easy to talk about what you like, what you would like to try, and by the way, what you have tried in the past and would like to experiment with again.

It's hard to give advice without knowing the relationship you have. You could just suggest it while in the process of having sex. Talk dirty. Tell him to do it. Beg him to do it.

Honestly I guess it just comes down to if I bring it up I'm worried he'll still say he's not interested and that would be very frustrating for me but, it's kind of a risk I have to take kind of thing.

Thank you so much for all of your advice you have been such a great help!! If I have anymore relationship type questions I'd love to get your input again!!

Spend some time working up to it. Don't expect him to jump on it at the first suggestion. Make hints. Suggest you watch porn together. Talk about what turns you both on.

If you are willing to be patient and he wants to make you happy and isn't totally turned off by the idea then you could be on your way.

Now that I'd never do, I'd never be comfortable watching porn together, I don't find that attractive or sexy at all.

Everything else sounds good though so thank you!!

The "bottom line" is he don't like it..

Have you some news? Now your boyfriend want try ?

Belle wrote:

The problem's your boyfriends, not yours, so ditch him and get yourself a stud from the Religion threads..

PS- what are your boyfriends hobbies and interests?
For example if he's into trainspotting you could get the Flying Scotsman tattooed across your back to give him something to look at and keep him interested.

I think you need to talk with his and disscuss all, or ffer him to eatch porn together

Jane said:

You could show him a 'Vlad the Impaler' video to try to get him interested