Suspicious number of text msgs???

You've already proven you don't trust her by playing Secret Police and delving into her already-deleted messages. If you're looking for approval for those actions, I don't think a lot of people here are going to provide it.

Maybe ShaneInTheDark would enjoy a career in the NSA?

Yes - 111 texts to a co-worker in 9 hours is odd.

But even more odd is that you are snooping in her phone.

So something IS wrong, but it probably began long before her texts to a co-worker.

I definitely feel that something is wrong when a jerk like you spies on his wife like that. I cannot help imagining the content of some of the messages...

09:00 The jerk has been looking at my phone again - lets yank his chain!

09:01 He picked up a note I left for the heating oil man - he thinks "150 gallons please" may be a secret code.

09:05 He thinks I am having sex with the softly spoken guy at the poodle parlor because I took Trixie Belle for a clip. He sure is barking up the wrong tree there!

09:07 The jerk asked me if I was screwing the mailman because we had 3 letters yesterday! They were all bills.

09:10 No, jerkwad, I'm not boinking the guy at the Texaco; the car really had run out of gas and anyway the gas station guy is 65 and a grandfather.

09:12 He thinks I might be letting the clerk at Wal-Mart do me. I told him we needed Cheerios and laundry detergent, and if it made him jealous I'd go to Safeway. He said No Way they have some seriously good looking dudes there!

09:13 He has a seriously small weiner, do you think that may have something to do with it all?