I do have a child and she is my priority, now and always will be. He was a huge part in her life too. WE did things together, as I am a package deal.
I wanted to say thank you for your advice. I appreciated your insight. have not contacted him AND I WON'T. He needs to focus on himself and his family.
The wife wants nothing to do with him and their marriage. She told me herself that she stayed in the miserable marriage for the kids and this is her out. She found out about us on Monday, and moved completely out by that Saturday.
I did ask him if he was reconciling with her, and he adamantly said no and that he loves me and my daughter to death. He told me that their isn't enough time in the day to work, go to the gym (having surgery needs to loose 35lbs or no surgery), spend time with his son, spend time with his parents. Then me. Then sleep. He said honestly, that there isn't enough time in the day.
We never once raised our voices or ever once got mad when the breakup happened. Actually we both cried our eyes out. Last thing he did was he grabbed my hand kissed it and told me how he loved me with all his heart and that he was so sorry.
Do I feel it's totally over? For some strange reason, I don't have that gut feeling that it is over for good. I just don't. But, for now, it is. I won't contact him AT ALL, and decided "to do me" and my daughter.
I love him so much, and kinda took the cliche to heart..."if you love someone set them free, if they come back they were always yours....if they dont they never were".....
Thank you again for your advice...