My son's coach is an asshole.

@PUNKEY,

It didn't empower him to speak up. After a through discussion of all the ways it could be handled he still wanted me to talk to Coach.

I don't have any regrets about doing so.

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@roger,

I didn't want him to think his behavior was secret.

Even if I had known that the problem was resolved I still think it's important that he knew that I knew.

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@glitterbag,

glitterbag wrote:

P.S. if coach was a woman I would have been much more critical.

Will u explain the discrimination ?

David

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@Linkat,

Linkat wrote:

There are certain situations where a parent should speak up -

In my opinion, parents have a moral responsibility to do that,
when appropriate, as it was in this instance.

David

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@wmwcjr,

wmwcjr wrote:

I'm glad you liked it!
It hadn't occurred to me that you would be amused by the avatar of the heavily armed rodent.

I had been thinking lately that it was silly; and I was about to replace it with a picture of Dmitri Mendeleev,
the Russian chemist who created the periodic table. But now I've changed my mind.
For your sake, David, I'll stick with the well-armed gopher.

Thank u. He has good taste in automatic weapons.
Is there any possibility that u will make a video of him field-stripping his M-6O Machinegun ?

( If Mo had taken that to class, I bet the Coach 'd have been more polite.)

David

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@boomerang,

boomerang wrote:

I didn't want him to think his behavior was secret.

Even if I had known that the problem was resolved
I still think it's important that he knew that I knew.

Please accept my sincere admiration of your intelligence, boomer.

David

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@OmSigDAVID,

OmSigDAVID wrote:

glitterbag wrote:
P.S. if coach was a woman I would have been much more critical.
Will u explain the discrimination ?

David

Since Boomer and I are both mothers, my comment was for her.

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@firefly,

I got cut off earlier for "flood control" and I'm just now getting back to my computer...

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Did this man give you an indication of why he had been acting this way when you spoke to him?

He said he was being an asshole (that's a direct quote). He made some noise about how is his an asshole to his own kids and how that helped them get things done and blahblahblah. That Mo's been around for so many years that he was just treating him like his own and blahblahblah.

Honestly, it scared me for his kids. At least I know he's not so awful to them that they won't call him on his behavior.

I know he's a good coach. He's coached for years and years. I know a lot of the kids he's coached and many of their families. I've never heard a complaint about him.

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@mismi,

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Compassion and sorrow are not unmanly traits.

Thank you. You're so right. We've got to move past this definition of manhood that says you must be stoic.

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@hawkeye10,

Mo's pretty tough. He's been through some stuff.

It would scare me if he didn't feel something over the loss of a pet though.

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@Linkat,

Indeed a coach has to find the right motivation for each player. People respond to different things.

But to think that any kid is going to respond positively to mocking the loss of a pet is just pretty assholey.

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@glitterbag,

OmSigDAVID wrote:

glitterbag wrote:
P.S. if coach was a woman I would have been much more critical.
Will u explain the discrimination ?

David

glitterbag wrote:

Since Boomer and I are both mothers, my comment was for her.

I surmise that is a refusal to explain (to anyone other than a mother).

David

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@OmSigDAVID,

I'm not going to explain this to you and get caught up in a sidebar conversation that will never end.

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@glitterbag,

OK. I hope that the women under your command
did not suffer the bane of your anti-female discrimination.

I 've seen that phenomenon of female anti-female: fierce; very alarming.

David

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@OmSigDAVID,

I'm not anti-female, why do you insist on redirecting the conversation. I don't answer your silly questions because you are keen on attributing negative qualities to anyone when you don't understand the comment. You ask questions such as "do you still beat your wife" and then whine and carp when you don't get a yes or no answer.

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@OmSigDAVID,

I get where glitterbag is coming from.

I'm not speaking for her but I'll say that there certainly are different expectations one has between men and women.

Mo had a woman for a baseball coach one year. She was the best baseball coach he's ever had. She was a total hard ass. Very tough. If she had behaved in such a cruel manner I would have been much more shocked (and let me tell you -- I was plenty shocked over this) and, as such, I would probably have been more critical (if more critical can be imagined).

I'd have to go back through this thread to be sure but I think it was mostly men who suggested Mo should get used to maltreatment.

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@boomerang,

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I'd have to go back through this thread to be sure but I think it was mostly men who suggested Mo should get used to maltreatment.

It wasn't men, Boomer, it was pseudo John Waynes.

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@boomerang,

Not me!

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@roger,

Nope, not you!

There were several men who didn't take the stiff upper lip approach and a few women who did.

It will be interesting to go back and see how things broke down, genderwise. I might just do that tomorrow morning.

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@boomerang,

boomerang wrote:

I get where glitterbag is coming from.

I'm not speaking for her but I'll say that there certainly are different expectations one has between men and women.

Mo had a woman for a baseball coach one year. She was the best baseball coach he's ever had. She was a total hard ass. Very tough. If she had behaved in such a cruel manner I would have been much more shocked (and let me tell you -- I was plenty shocked over this) and, as such, I would probably have been more critical (if more critical can be imagined).

I'd have to go back through this thread to be sure but I think it was mostly men who suggested Mo should get used to maltreatment.

boomer, against the chance that anything that I posted
be interpreted to mean that Mo shud accept mistreatment,
let me clarify that I only meant to suggest that he not be shocked or surprised by it,
but I strongly advocate actively FIGHTING against it.
I hope that u r having a wonderful summer in Oregon.

David

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