Well I wasn't trying to say being a victim will help a person to become stronger. I don't think I know anyone who was never treated unfairly. As a parent, it's my job to teach my children how to become independent, not to raise hot house flowers. I don't believe Boomer acted as a helicopter parent, the Coach fessed up before she said anything. My sons are independent, employed and have families of their own. As a parent you really can't protect your children from everything, they simply won't come running every time someone treats them badly. I've been learning over recent years about things my son didn't tell us because he handled it himself.
We enrolled him in Soccer when he was about 9. The local team didn't have openings, so we took him to the next locality. One practice, we were waiting to pick him up after practice. When the coach called them off the field, he was lopping back with a soccer ball under his arm when one of the boys took it and kicked it way back on the field. He trotted after it, picked it up and trotted back again. Same boy took the ball and kicked it back out. He retrieved the ball trotted back, same boy figures he can do it a third time only this time, son had enough and knocked him on his butt. Neither Coach or asst coaches noticed, we were too far away to yell or interfere. Son handled it without adult intervention. I would to mention the other kid was about 9 and only a little taller than my son. If he had been 35 years old, and 6'4" it would have been a different story. Mo's son is 12 and that's a lot different than 14 or 15.
I agree that many parents baby their children way too long. At family gatherings I see young sullen teens whose mothers are begging them to behave and be polite. It's also true that many adult children think their parents should help them maintain a standard of luxury the children can't afford. I don't think Boomer is the kind of mom who still cuts up his food and washes his hair.
It's usually a good thing for parents to set a good example, not just fix everything.